how to deal with Saas and Jithani.

[queen_24]

Re: how to deal with Saas and Jithani.

@redvelvet

^It may not be farz, but helping others and showing kindness can help strengthen relationships. If everyone was to just brush things off and have no regard for others, that would be damaging to not just relationships but society overall; what difference would there be between us and animals? I get what you’re saying, but I wouldn’t depend solely on this reasoning. What does bug me, however, is that in Desi culture especially among in-laws…there’s a lack of appreciation and more as sense of entitlement…and that creates problems.

I understand your point too but if someone doesnt want to strengthen a relationship, why grudges or arguments?
In her case, suggesting her to speak to her jithani to help her with the chores can create problems too!! We cant force someone to do something they dont want to, and thats what I was saying that ISLAMICALLY its not her duty too!! We can not urge someone to react the way we want to! IMO, speaking to her Jithani can create more problems and seriously its OP who will suffer. Jithani will argue, fight, leave the house and create a drama while the OP will have to listen to her MIL and (if the drama is played very diplomatically) her husband!! I can understand where she is coming from but in last, its she who will be victimed! Everyone will say…haw haye, do bartan nahin dho sakti thi, blah blah!! think vast! Sometime its good to stay quiet even when you are right because it can prove you wrong! I am experienced