How to deal with my ex husband

Mirch · October 31, 2014, 12:24am

Re: How to deal with my ex husband

My whole married life was spent trying to please him on every occasion. That’s why when he comes round, I automatically change and find myself changed into the ‘wife’ mode and I find myself waiting hand and foot on him. It’s the way I’ve become and when his mum comes round, even more so. There was one time when our youngest daughter was just two years old, he came to see the kids and made a pass at me. I felt sick for days after that and told to never do that again. When he suggested the Eid dinner, I said no because people might see us together and they’d gossip. He went on about us getting back together again and he actually put his hand on his genitals and made a point that he was sexually frustrated and that really pissed me off. Thank god the kids didn’t see that.

the children know I have no intentions of remarrying him and yes, I do hate confrontations because he has a way of making me look and sound silly. I have told him that I don’t want to remarry and for the kids sake, we should just remain as we are, civil and courteous. We don’t have to keep meeting at my place. I have made it clear but he still thinks he’s in with a chance! My attire is modest, no make up, nothing flashy. I always try to keep the conversations strictly related to the kids and I don’t sit with him while he’s with the kids.

i admit that I have made mistakes is being too nice but that’s just my nature. I do feel that he’s taken advantage of my generosity and now it’s really starting to bug me.

Move at least 5000 miles away from him.