Re: How to deal with issues
step 1- take all emotions, impact on others and their feelings out
step 2- evaluate on pros and cons
step 3- review alternatives with a few trusted people
step 4- pepper back feelings into it
step 5- for people impacted by it, make a list of ppl who really matter (hint, parents, siblings, children etc..no phuppi, childhood friend, type things here)
step 6- if they will be impacted negatively, tell them, in many cases they will be supportive even if it has somewhat of a negative impact on them
step 7- implement decision
we get too bogged down as if our decision will change the lives of everyone around us forever and all. basically no one really cares, there may be yipyap about this or that, but who cares. people who care will support you if they see what you are doing is the best for you. They will let you know if in their view you are making the wrong decision but they will be supportive regardless.
your life, your decision, its as simple as that