crying does help my frnd ..... and don't push anything back ... just let your mind think and tell yourself that watever u wanna think u'll think it all this time and after that no more thinking and once all the thinking is done u feel much better ... or atleast i work that way
Ive never tried that approach before.. Sounds interesting.. Ill see how it works out
Lady -- F it!
Those dumb ass people won't come through to help you out when (khudanakawasta) hell will break through, so why worry about them and their comments.
After hearing BS from almost everyone for years including family close relatives, one day i decided to speak up. I was the most "Badtameez" kid in the entire khandan for few years but now, those idiots would contact me and ask my opinion.I still hear, "she thinks she is all that", "maah aur baap ne kuch nahi sikhaya" they all talk behind by back becuase they know i will nail them down so bad that they wont be able to breath.
you get life once, your experiences teach you to do something different if a similar situation comes around but dont use it like an experiment.
My attitude is -- keep talking and watch to see if i give a dammmm....when you stop reacting to certain comments or do something that people dont expect you to do, they get scared and sit in their little corners and worry about their own Sh*t
(wese bhi .. ... chalo badnaam hi sahi.. nam to ho ga)
lol... dont worry i dont stand people talking rubbish in front of me.. If they have something pathetic to say im sure I can shut them up regardless of whether there my phupo's or mamu's
Its just when they decide to kick a dog when its down... sometimes it gets too much especially with the emotional and physical drainage, Sometimes its just better to keep quiet otherwise you have to hear a lot more crap you cant deal with at the time
step 1- take all emotions, impact on others and their feelings out
step 2- evaluate on pros and cons
step 3- review alternatives with a few trusted people
step 4- pepper back feelings into it
step 5- for people impacted by it, make a list of ppl who really matter (hint, parents, siblings, children etc..no phuppi, childhood friend, type things here)
step 6- if they will be impacted negatively, tell them, in many cases they will be supportive even if it has somewhat of a negative impact on them
step 7- implement decision
we get too bogged down as if our decision will change the lives of everyone around us forever and all. basically no one really cares, there may be yipyap about this or that, but who cares. people who care will support you if they see what you are doing is the best for you. They will let you know if in their view you are making the wrong decision but they will be supportive regardless.
your life, your decision, its as simple as that
Your right. My life my decision. I like your step by step solution. Sometimes I dont know whether to trust my decision tho, that's when I need approval from someone like my parents.
I guess I only need to worry about myself and my parents regarding this matter... And I know i'll have their 100% support... No one else should count because no one else is directly affected, they all just seem to give their 2 pence which is always biased towards what THEY want to happen for THEIR own good!
Lama is furious