I think you just tell them straight out that you've met someone that you would like to marry and you want them to meet him.
The other alternative is to have him talk to his parents, and they call yours. But I think the first option is the better first step.
yep it's best to tell them urself rather than get the 'other side' to call randomly. my mum kind of guessed and i ended up telling her i've found someone who ticks all the right boxes. she was really pleased and happy. i'm going to leave it to her to tell my dad when the time is right. i'm too shy to tell him myself lol
Talk to who you are closest to first. I felt most comfortable telling my older brother (who is good at talking to my parents). I told him everything, and before he told my dad, he spoke with the guy to see if he was serious, and find out some background information. Then he told my dad, there is this guy who is interested, this is what he does, this is where he is from, these are his parents name. So then my dad talked to my mom. My mom then talked to me to find out a little more about everything, and she said to tell the guy to have his parents call my parents. So then the guys parents called my parents, and they started talking that way.
So basically, talk to who you feel most comfortable with first. I felt most comfortable talking to my brother, and he handled it from there.
I told my mum on her own in a public place LOL she was calm about it and then she said she wanted to meet the parents, the parents met and Alhumdulillah it all worked out! My mum's the strictest mum around!! If he's a really decent guy who could support you/is a good muslim and who you could see keeping you happy then parents shouldn't have any problem?
hi hi… idher my parents have been waiting that their daughter will break some news to them… but hi ri meri qismat :hinna: so far i have been only breaking dishes n glasses at home …but no such news … :sighs… and sighs again … :hinna: :hinna:
Idher bhi yehi hal hai I’m on the same boat. bulbuli:
Even though in my family dating is a big no no but mum has eased up on the idea that if I find the right man myself then it’s not the end of the world.
Depending on the actual situation, may be going through a mutual family friend may work out. Also, I think depending on how much you interact with your local imam, I would go through him and explain the situation to him. May be he could approach the parents and suggest that guy. This way you haven’t done much harm and seems like a proper channel.
Yes, yes tell whoever you're close to (older than you is better, cuz they have more authority) you know you havent done anything wring why be scared :)
I agree with telling which ever parent you're closest to, but I don't understand how you could bear to wait for an older sibling, to tell your dad, who will then tell your mum, who will them speak to you about it, wouldn't you also want to know their initial reactions?
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