So, say you’re from a traditional family in which dating before marriage is frowned upon…but you did it anyway. The only difference is you didn’t do it in a chichora way i.e having strings of boyfriends and sexual relations etc. You found ‘the one’ who’s educated, from a good family and overall the type of boy your parents were looking for in the first place, no sexual contact in anyway whatsoever(a halal relationship). You’re just 2 people who love each other and what to spend the rest of their lives together.
How do you tell them?
Parents - in what way would you want to find out/not find out, and how would you react?
Same goes for guys, how would you tell your parents about such a girl?
For those of you who have had love marriages, how did you handle your parents? Share your stories.
ALSO - please may I add this isn’t about me :halo:
I think you should ask the guy to the talk to his parents who can then contact your parents and it should work out :)
Generally , if you found the kind of guy your parents would want you to get married then there is no reason that they shouldnt be ok with it. Ofcourse they might be skeptical at first
i have never experienced such kinda situation as i dont have any bf
i think the girl should first talk about this to that person of the family who is more closer to her. i.e sister, mom, etc…
now the questions is “how would she gonna tell”
-----> she can start by saying that “i have a very good friend i talk to him on daily bases he is a good guy n blah blah blah” then she have to observe the expressions n reaction of her parents … if they dont being harsh then she may move forward n talk about her that guy infront of her parents every now n then… and after few days she can say “i have fall in love with this guy”
Right on the money. Just like Govt. When Govt have to increase gas prices by Rs75, they increase Rs100 and then when people fight back, Govt reduce it to Rs75. People become happy.
It depends...does your family stand severely against dating and will not consider a love marriage at all? If thats the case, you have to be tricky about it and engineer the situation in such a way where everyone's happy.
If not, then just come out with it and tell the parent you feel has most influence over the family decisions.
I agree with Sahar, of *telling straight out and do it to the parent you feel closest too. *
My mom half way guessed so it wasn't too bad.
Agree.
In my case my dad guessed.. but he knew I had been seeing the guy from quite early on (I told him so it wasn't a shock)..
On a side note I wonder what really does happen to the girls who get pregnant by boys they want to marry? I heard one case where the girl was made to have a termination then married off to someone else as punishment.. crazy people..
similar to what CM said, I always joke with my friends that whenever they tell their parents about a guy they like, they should first tell the parents:
"I'm pregnant, and the father is a black guy!"
After the initial shock and high blood pressure starts to cool down, you say:
"well i very well could be, since im not married yet! And speaking of this..there's this guy that I think you will love!"
I think you just tell them straight out that you've met someone that you would like to marry and you want them to meet him.
I agree 100% with Sahar. If you think you're mature enough to handle marriage, then you should be able to talk to your parents about it as an adult. I called my dad one day (I don't live with my parents) and flat out told him that I met someone and really like him. Same with my SO.....he just came right out and told his parents. I know two other Pakistani girls who did the same thing (ie. just came out and told their parents) and both are currently married.
Of course the above advise is assuming that you don't think your father will actually physically harm you if he finds out. So unless you have one of those psycho families that literally kills their daughters if the daughter is caught dating, then I don't see what you're so afraid of.
I told my parents directly and i’d want my children to feel comfortable enough to tell me. I’d want to hear it directly from them, not some random person.
There’s no point in beating around the bush or playing silly games …just tell them.
Yeah I'd just tell them that I've met someone who I'd like to marry, hopefully they'll be willing to get to know him and his family and then we can take things from there.
i have never experienced such kinda situation as i dont have any bf 
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