How to be a Successful Muslim Wife & Husband (merged)

[PyariCgudia]

Re: How to be a Successful Muslim Wife

Sure. Its a full time job. Why shouldn't a woman get some rewards for it?

[Lahore_981]

Re: How to be a Successful Muslim Wife

@PyariCgudia

Sara516, men have jobs too. True.

But there is a big difference. Their job ends at 5 pm, and they go home. They get paid at least minimum wage. They get weekends off, usually. They get paid sick leaves, and national holidays. They take a vacation a year usually. They get health benefits, sometimes from their workplace.

What the hell does a sit at home mom get? And don’t tell me a loving family, because a husband gets that too. So what are the perk benefits of sitting at home farting around with your bratty 5 year old?

What the hell.

You measure everything in monetary equivalents. Hell with a society that teaches that kind of stuff, what a mom gets in raising her kids, damn…

It means my mom wasted her life in bringing me up as a conscientious person. She made me a better individual, a responsible person a better part of a society, told me right from wrong, supported me with her kind love, did so many “duas” for me, protected me from every evil, opened doors in the night when nobody would get up to sacrifice their sleep. When I had bad times I had mom, to whom I went and found the soft corner with. That’s what, that is exactly what I am gonna give to me wife, one word called LOVE, what I learned from my mom.

That’s what my mom contributed in my life, taught me the value of a woman in practical terms, shown me how a woman is different than a man, what it needs to understand a woman and taught me what kind of institution a woman is………………

What are you gonna give to your kids???

You westernized ladies do not and cannot understand many things

1. The individualized and differential role of man and woman as husband and wife.

2. You do not understand the complementary relationship of a husband and wife.

3. You do not understand the value of the investment a woman makes while bringing her kids up

[Lahore_981]

Re: How to be a Successful Muslim Wife

Let me ask you PCG,

Have you ever been married? If no, then why you harbor such kind of thoughts? If you have not had a husband yet why are you assmuning theing will go a particular way? Why do you generalize? How do you know what is gonna happen to you.....

Nothing, you know nothing, just listen to the media, read poisonous news papers, nurture western ideologies, blindly folow them without any reality check?????

What PCG What??????

[PyariCgudia]

Re: How to be a Successful Muslim Wife

**She made me a better individual, a responsible person a better part of a society, told me right from wrong, supported me with her kind love, did so many “duas” for me, protected me from every evil, opened doors in the night when nobody would get up to sacrifice their sleep. When I had bad times I had mom, to whom I went and found the soft corner with. That’s what, that is exactly what I am gonna give to me wife, one word called LOVE, what I learned from my mom.

That’s what my mom contributed in my life, taught me the value of a woman in practical terms, shown me how a woman is different than a man, what it needs to understand a woman and taught me what kind of institution a woman is………………**

And what exactly did you give to her?

[Numb]

Re: How to be a Successful Muslim Wife

that´s out of question! I turn the question on you and ask "what did you give to your mom"?

[PyariCgudia]

Re: How to be a Successful Muslim Wife

Lahore 981 = Numb ????

[Numb]

Re: How to be a Successful Muslim Wife

löl...No, I am sorry...

[Lahore_981]

Re: How to be a Successful Muslim Wife

@PyariCgudia

Lahore 981 = Numb ???

You are the most dumb person I have ever seen. What do you want me to give her, money, a compensation?

Damit. What do you think I am writting?

Can you write it for your mom what I wrote for my mom?

Probably you were thrown away by your parents, thats why you have such a sick mind… they did not give you any attention or they threw you into a day care center???

If yes, then I understand your comments.

[_Lahore_Ka_Cheetah]

Re: How to be a Successful Muslim Wife

@Kaleem

What else do you want? Dang it… Women are so demanding

Only in the West.

[Sadiyah]

Re: How to be a Successful Muslim Wife & Husband (merged)

Moved.

[PyariCgudia]

Re: How to be a Successful Muslim Wife & Husband (merged)

And Lahore 981, being a self-proclaimed physician, shows characteristics that are so unbecoming of a physician. So desi.

[Orpheus]

Re: How to be a Successful Muslim Wife & Husband (merged)

PCG.. some of your replies here crack me up

[Gola_Gunda]

Re: How to be a Successful Muslim Wife & Husband (merged)

How to be a Successful Muslim Wife & Husband ?

I have no experience but what i dream for a successful wife and husband (even dream does not come true all the time) i see both of them so much involved with the other that even one is wrong the other either advice and convince to be on the right path or always be ready to admit they are equally responsible for the partner's deeds because muslim marrieds are like clothes for each other, if one is body the other is the clothe.
Its to late to blame others after marriage, when u r married its ur responsibility to drive the life of yours and your partner.

[Seminole]

Re: How to be a Successful Muslim Wife

@Lahore 981

you want to do these things for men other than your husband, if you want to show yourself of to other men, nude, naked, etc etc…and you find is respectfull and honoring for women or yourself in any way, go ahead. Take off your clothes, go to a bacheloretett party, night club, sleep with other men, Who cares

Where does that come from? The post was not about a wife’s obligation to be faithful to her husband and not dance naked in front of other men. Who is arguing that? The post was about a woman being subservient to her husband and nothing in the eyes of God because her rewards are based on his righteousness.

[Sara516]

Re: How to be a Successful Muslim Wife & Husband (merged)

Hey semi, genuine question... wat is the non-Muslim, non-desi, non-Asian/arab idea of a good wife??

[picoico]

Re: How to be a Successful Muslim Wife

@PyariCgudia

Sure. Its a full time job. Why shouldn’t a woman get some rewards for it?

That makes the husband the employer? Perhaps I should start asking for resumes…

Is this job unionized?

I wish my job took a nap between 10am and 3pm…

It’s not a job. You don’t get hired for it, you can’t get fired from it…and only an idiot would leave it.

Is a job more important than raising one’s own child?

[PyariCgudia]

Re: How to be a Successful Muslim Wife & Husband (merged)

Picoico. You can interpret "rewards" in any way you want.

[Lahore_981]

Re: How to be a Successful Muslim Wife & Husband (merged)

^ PCG,

I want to apologize from you. I am sorry I have been at times very bad in my language with you. I have written bad things about you. I am sorry.

And I want to say this in public, I feel no shame in admitting it and apologizing.

Lahore 981

[Lahore_981]

Re: How to be a Successful Muslim Wife & Husband (merged)

^ This apology applies to all previous attempts from my side also.

This in no way means I agree with you on those points. I disagree on hard terms. Just that I personally felt I have been breaching your personal boundaries of self respect.

[PyariCgudia]

Re: How to be a Successful Muslim Wife & Husband (merged)

You can disagree all you want. You can also apologize all you want.

Fact is: You should not even THINK and ASSUME such comments about others, and the fact that you've even left it up is disturbing enough!

"Probably you were thrown away by your parents, thats why you have such a sick mind................. they did not give you any attention or they threw you into a day care center???????"

What a disgusting comment. And you take care of patients every day? Is this the kind of assumptions you make about those people too?

VERY DISTURBING.

I'm sorry to say, you give me an even further bad impression of Pakistani doctors.