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If this is anger its fine. You can say whatever you want.
Before you say something, you should also think over what you said. You assume about others in a worst manner than you are alleging to me. You were not supposed to say “What did you give her back” PCG, it shows a lot about you, may be you don’t realize. It was that sentence where I felt REALLY DISGUSTED over your comment. Anybody admitting the truth can get upset at that.
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I don’t understand this comment. How are you even sure I am a doc??? How do you know? Anybody can say anything on internet?
And honestly, you are just using this word 'Pakistani Doctors" as a representation of your thinking towards people from back home Pakistan and the superiority in your mind about you being someone above them… this is “racism”
Secondly, you are generalizing again…
Thirdly, Pakistani doctors compete with others around the world, in USA, Canada, UK, Australia etc and prove their worth to them. How about that? Pakistani doctors are way more intellegent than the foreign ones… its a fact…
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Oh no no. I'm not talking about Pakistani doctors as in doctors trained in Pakistan. I'm talking about pakistanis in general who are doctors. Sleezy scumbags, most of them.
Your character shows in the way you treat others. Not necessarily from your job title.
And if you're not a doctor, then don't jump in my threads giving me advice on my menstruation cycle, thanks.
Stick to the topic at hand. I asked a question, and you got disgusted by it. You should have said specifically that, instead of resorting to a personal accusation, which is totally false. But convincing people like you otherwise, its a waste of time and there is really no need for it. Ignorant people will remain ignorant.
My response to your disgust over my question is the same as I gave picoico. And that is, "you can take "rewards" to mean whatever you want".
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And DO NOT tell me this is a sincere apology. If you want to make this public, then fine. You sent me a PM with a title that says "Apology" and in it was just a link to the thread you posted the apology in, which was incidentally, not even this thread in which you made the insult. It was another thread altogether. You were not interested in really apologizing, otherwise, the PM itself would have had more than a link. You are, like most typical Pakistanis, just interested in saving face.
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^ Your question was disgusting and stinky after you had read my post which you quoted to ask question. I am not supposed to give you any answer, you are not my mom.
And you cannot say to anyone on this forum to not come to your thread specifically. I'll come to whatever thread I like and write whetever I want, be it your queries about "desi totkas to induce menses"
Allah Hafiz
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What a disgusting person. He doesn't want to answer the question because he knows what I'm trying to prove, and instead resorts to a cheap comment. Then on top of that, he has no tameez to apologize sincerely. And then on top of that he makes it seem as if I'm the one who has no manners.
Like I said. Lahore 981 is not exhibiting behavior that is appropriate to his noble career. Well, "noble" in name.
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I cannot come to lick your feet but I can alert you and be succint in my apology…
You have to admit it takes guts to do what I did, admit my fault and apologize… In the public where I posted bad comments about you, what most of the desi men don’t do…for your information.
Lastly, you urged me to post the apology in the right thread, and I removed it from the wrong thread, and posted in the correct thread without changing any words of it.
And you are totally insensitive to that and still writting your hateful comments about me.
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What intersting manners you have learned in the western society, at least Pakistani men know how to talk decently.
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Sorry, you are on Ignore, and I'm not seeing your messages any more. I'd like to keep it that way. Please refrain from PM'ing me. Thanks. Godspeed.
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^ Lets leave it upto the memebrs. Obviously you are here before me so they know better about you.
I am blocking your ID so as not to receive any PM from you now. Okay.
Good girl
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Oh, one last thing PCG. I guess you need to see a psychiarist. I sense a lot in your head and a lot in your past too.................
The way you speak, tells a lot.........
At least I'd have to get myself checked by a psychiatrist after talking to you in this thread.
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If we follow islam and the sunnah we women will automatically know how to treat,respect,love and care for our husbands and vice versa. There should be mutual respect for each other in a marriage. Nowaydays women are shouting out for equality, 'if you work, i wanna work', or 'if I change nappies so should you'. We shouldn't base our lives on how the western world lives,because as muslims there are certain roles for men and certain for women. That's not to say that they cannot work together and help each other in those roles.
InshALLAH when I have a family I personally would love to stay at home and look after my kids, that would be my main priority, even though now I have a strong career I would definately give it up after marriage if my husband wanted me to. After having kids there would be no question of working because I would wanna devote all my attention to my children.
Feminism can go against Islam, the west always promotes feminism and sometimes this subliminal many a time blatant message promoted though TV, media, magazines, fashion etc can put ignorant ideas in peoples heads. A woman can be strong, educated,career minded, a mother, a carer, a wife as well at the same time.
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The question arises that WHY should a women have to do everything, what is the problem with equality and why the assumption taht it isnt compatable with Islam ( may I remind you that it was the first religion to give woman any rights).
If you want to be treated *so *in the house then fair enough, that is your progative but dont debase other people from demands what their human rights dictate and secondly don't complain when men who have been brought up with mothers thus do not really respect or appreciate women, or seem to ahve this logic-less attitude that they are superior.
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well regardless of what she posted, isn't it wonderful to have a nice and stable marriage where both partners enjoy each other's company, but anyway i have seen many women who adore their husbands and the husbands treat them like dog sh**. my verdict both sides should be caring enough.
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What was the content of the original message and what has been actually made out of it makes me restless.
I browsed through a book on marital happiness some time ago titled His needs and her needs Although words arent same but the intent of all advices are like such as here. Ofcourse, the duty towards the husband part has been missing from here and I would ratther like to hear from women about them.
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A solitary sane voice of reason amongst the madness.
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Why do some women feel like it is a burden to the house work? It is their house, if they are not going to take care of it then who? Men go out work make money, women make sure the house is nice and stable. Where does civil rights come into this equation? Why do some women feel like doing hosue work is degrading?
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house work is not degrading atall :) It is upgrading coz love goes through the stomach! A tired man or whoever lives in the house and comes home after an exhausting day needs food! **Their destiny (mostly) lies in the hands of the **queen of the house.
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it is the man’s house too. why do ALL men feel bad about working in the kitchen now and then? does it make them any less male?
if you think that working 9-5 is as much a burden as a woman taking care of the house…care to switch?
lemme break it down for you. this kinda applies to most desis…
the girls are made to start working around the house at ages as young as 10…while the boys are left to play way past their teens. then in their teens most girls are married off into houses where again they are made to work and help with chores. whereas boys in their teens are studying, hanging out late night, riding their bikes, watching tv, playing cricket etc etc… so far there hasnt been much contribution into the household from them…
whereas as u can see the women have been contributing from a much younger age.
for the girls that do study…a very interesting point is that if they are not interested in studies…they are married off…but the same wont apply to a boy not interested in studies.
at some point a guy will get a job and get married to a woman that will do all the mom duties for him up to color coordinating his socks for him.
as for the question of housework being degrading…MEN put it in a womans mind by treating houseworking women like slaves and constantly claiming how superior they and their work is to them. WHY does a man that doesnt have a job get made fun of? if that guy chose to stay at home and cook…other men would make fun of him…WHY? is that a degrading thing to do?
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Its not more so about the burden MWP. Its about how much u get out of the work u do for whole house. What do i mean by that? I am only going to speaking from what I have seen no general rules applied here since every situation is different. So, i was saying that think about it that woman…a mom…a wife takes care of the whole house and and i think her job is non-stop 24/7. On the other hand, husbands do work and yeah they have to face the world and so many things but they do get one day off from their actual job, right?
Thats the only thing i have seen among couples complaining about that wife has to do house work eventhough its weekend, on the other hand husband can have a day off!