How to Balance between Mother and Wife?

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Re: How to Balance between Mother and Wife?

@Sehrysh

The issue IMO is that the mother has an issue (whether out of concern for or possessiveness over her son) and rather than discuss it with her son, she brought it up with the DIL. The MIL is angry/unhappy that the DIL told her husband that it was your mom who wants me to send you home early.

Had the son agreed with his wife (or rather his mom’s instructions) or had the DIL not mentioned that it was the MIL who made the suggestion, all would have been hunky-dory.

I think the mom should own her suggestion/advice - if she’s concerned about her son being tired/seeing too much of his wife/spending too much time at the inlaws/not enough time with his own parents, she should tell her son directly - don’t use the DIL as a messenger and then become ultrasensitive and be put out that the DIL told her husband that it was the MIL’s idea - the DIL only said what was true.

Yahan sach bolna bhi ghalat samjh jaata hai.

Nothing in here that I would disagree with, but are you suggesting that OP do his mother’s islaah? If so, am afraid, that will make matters worse.