Re: How to Balance between Mother and Wife?
If the inlaws have no problem with him staying over then why are his parents concerned? They may not have a problem with him seeing his wife but asking his wife to send him home as if he has a curfew to follow is lame. Why don’t I see mothers having similar concerns for their married daughters? I don’t see mothers asking their son in laws how their daughter is doing or whether or not she is getting enough rest. I am talking about this double standard. Mothers need to stop babying their sons just like they stop babying their daughters when they get married. The girls get told “ab tum bari hogayee ho, shadi hogayee hai, khud sambhalo apne ghar ko aur apne shohar ko” but when it comes to the boys “beta, khana khaaaya? kyon nahi khaya, soye? kyon nahi soye? nashta banadun? kahan jarahe ho? kyon jarahe ho?” EVEN though they live in the same damn house. That’s my problem. I get jealous when my MIL pampers my husband sometimes because it makes me miss my own mother and then I tell myself “ab main baree hogayee hoon, shadi hogayee hai, apne ghar ko sambhalna chahiye aur apne shohar ko bhi”… true story.
Lol theorist: Mothers ask all these questions (you mentioned above) to their married daughters too, the only difference is as the daughters are not living with them, they ask these over the phone.