Re: How to Balance between Mother and Wife?
I think I already explained to him that I did not mean ‘personal attack’ & already apologized from him incase my post hurt his ‘fillings’. And he seems to have accepted my apology. Do you personally think my apology was not enough. Or do you want me to apologize from you too for him? I dont see any other reason for you to bring that up.
I disagree with my parents all the time on most things. But if an outsider, without having both sides of info, would tell me that my father or mother manipulative, I will be sure that his opinion is not justified. Now that is me who would think that. Usually, people tend to absorb such opinions even if in their subconscious because they want to know they’re on the ‘right’ even if they’re not. Those thoughts, views from outsiders not inside in a situation & without enough information are what create family politics.
Let’s for a minute believe OP’s mother really is that evil character of some indian soap opera that Southie tried to relate her to. And let’s assume we all believe the same. So, should we all tell him to beware of his mother because she is MANIPULATIVE? Will you do that to a sister or any other loved one especially when you do not know both the sides of stories? Should we not try to defuse a situation instead of adding more fuel to fire? What do you think the OP would do to his mother if he goes by Southie’s advice? Will he continue to have the same respect for his mother or become distant from her? His posts encouraged the OP to consider his mother as the evil in this entire matter. That is what I did not like. But did not mean ‘personal attacks’. Hope Im clear enough this time around.