How to Balance between Mother and Wife?

Theorist · January 27, 2015, 4:15pm

Re: How to Balance between Mother and Wife?

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i think in this particular case, parents are not complaining about the son seeing his wife every weekend, they are more so concerned about his staying at in-laws for longer periods,as op mentioned that his mom and dad advised him earlier not to stay for longer at in-laws. So this means they have no problems with him seeing his wife but have problems at staying at
in-laws.
Another thing is, OP himself admitted that he feel tired with all the travelling, this perhaps is a very strong reason for his mom to feel concerned about his son’s tight schedule and lack of rest, that made her talk to her DIL about sending him back on Sunday. If you notice, she is not telling him not to go there at all, she is just telling to cut short the visit by few hours. And frankly speaking mothers and fathers do have this much right on their children even on the married children.

If the inlaws have no problem with him staying over then why are his parents concerned? They may not have a problem with him seeing his wife but asking his wife to send him home as if he has a curfew to follow is lame. Why don’t I see mothers having similar concerns for their married daughters? I don’t see mothers asking their son in laws how their daughter is doing or whether or not she is getting enough rest. I am talking about this double standard. Mothers need to stop babying their sons just like they stop babying their daughters when they get married. The girls get told “ab tum bari hogayee ho, shadi hogayee hai, khud sambhalo apne ghar ko aur apne shohar ko” but when it comes to the boys “beta, khana khaaaya? kyon nahi khaya, soye? kyon nahi soye? nashta banadun? kahan jarahe ho? kyon jarahe ho?” EVEN though they live in the same damn house. That’s my problem. I get jealous when my MIL pampers my husband sometimes because it makes me miss my own mother and then I tell myself “ab main baree hogayee hoon, shadi hogayee hai, apne ghar ko sambhalna chahiye aur apne shohar ko bhi”… true story.