sister.. your story looks not too deffrent then mine..... all problems could be solved only if you could talk to your husband about how do you feel about all this going on around you. but the thing is .. is he ready to listen??? and will he be able to understand ??? and will he be willing to solve the issues??? even if he can not talk to his mother at least he could listen and comfort you.letting you know that he is there ..and he cares....