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First off, I think it's great you took the first step to make an attempt to fix/ clear things up. Secondly, I kind of agree with what your mother said. You've done what was in your power. You invited them and opened up to them and showed them that you are willing to work on it. Now it's their turn to react. I can imagine how you must feel, but I would just wait and see where it leads to. InshaAllah, I hope it does work out!
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If you are restless and annoyed with your SIL who is silly , it shows that you did not leave it all behind you with her. You mom is right. Forget and forgive and move on. That will give you peace of mind. Inshallah. Ameen.
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I'm sorry but your inlaws sound a bit racist, if that's the case then there's not much you can do to turn their hearts, specially your SIL who's young.
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**as per ur narrations, u've done all that u could do. u tried to mend the fences and u did go an extra mile. The ball is in ur SIL's court and it's now up to her to come forward and shun all the grudges and embrace. ek she'r yaad aa gayaa:
tu mujh se Khafaa hai to zamaane ke liye, aaaa!!!!**
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Thank you for the responses. I guess i'll just have to wait it out. By nature i can get a bit anxious when things dont pick speed. I hate waiting ... So that is why i am not feeling so good ... other than that ... i just really really want things to be good because i am just tired of how things are going ... it takes up a lot of energy to hold grudges. i just want a positive response from her. the idea of any thing other than makes my stomach churn.
@hareem ...oh no,no ,no .. nobody is racist here :) ... they are all very nice people ... just a difficult situation. if they were ... there wouldn't be spouses from 3 different continents in just one family :) ... it has not been easy for them to see their son/brother going off his birth religion .. and then actually being serious about embracing islam to the extent of getting married into it. and i can understand that. but even with all this ongoing conundrum ... everybody has been relatively nice .. the parents have been very nice.
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ye bollywood ka purana gana nahi hai? 
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U got the point where u felt like enough is enough, we should work it out.
Its not necessary ure sil feel the same way. Until she gets to where u are at, its gonna be weird between u 2,.... And in this time all u can be is patient and wait for her to reach her level of peace with u... No one forced u, no one should force her.
Just be civil..hello...hi...and wait foe the girlfriend kinda stuff to come along sooner or later.
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Thank you for the responses. I guess i'll just have to wait it out. By nature i can get a bit anxious when things dont pick speed. I hate waiting ... So that is why i am not feeling so good ... other than that ... i just really really want things to be good because i am just tired of how things are going ... it takes up a lot of energy to hold grudges. i just want a positive response from her. the idea of any thing other than makes my stomach churn.
@hareem ...oh no,no ,no .. nobody is racist here :) ... they are all very nice people ... just a difficult situation. if they were ... there wouldn't be spouses from 3 different continents in just one family :) ... it has not been easy for them to see their son/brother going off his birth religion .. and then actually being serious about embracing islam to the extent of getting married into it. and i can understand that. but even with all this ongoing conundrum ... everybody has been relatively nice .. the parents have been very nice.
awww...you shouldn't be much worried about your SIL then, I think she's young and immature and I'm sure she will come to terms with you inshallah.
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U got the point where u felt like enough is enough, we should work it out.
Its not necessary ure sil feel the same way. Until she gets to where u are at, its gonna be weird between u 2,.... And in this time all u can be is patient and wait for her to reach her level of peace with u... No one forced u, no one should force her.
Just be civil..hello...hi...and wait foe the girlfriend kinda stuff to come along sooner or later.
yea ... that's a logical perspective ... didn't look it at it that way ..
awww...you shouldn't be much worried about your SIL then, I think she's young and immature and I'm sure she will come to terms with you inshallah.
i hope so :)
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bollywood ka to nahiiN hai mere Khayaal se kiuN k yeh to Faraz kii amsh’hoor Ghazal kaa ek misr’a hai 
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bollywood ka to nahiiN hai mere Khayaal se kiuN k yeh to Faraz kii amsh'hoor Ghazal kaa ek misr'a hai :D
kuch chal raha hai mera dimaagh mein ... koi raag jo k issi type k aaaaaa say end hota hai jo aap ki misray k end per hai :P ... samajh nahi aa rahi kahan suna hai .. :P
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kuch chal raha hai mera dimaagh mein ... koi raag jo k issi type k aaaaaa say end hota hai jo aap ki misray k end per hai :P ... samajh nahi aa rahi kahan suna hai .. :P
**hmmm...agar aapko yaad aa rahaa hai to yaqeenan hogaa aisaa koii gaanaa...yaad aa jaaye to mujhe bhii bataaiyegaa :) thankoo...
...vaise, agar ek do alfaaz yaad hoN to maiN talaash kar saktaa huN :) inshaa Allah :)
i LIKED ur siggy...kia technologically maaraa hai lol
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**hmmm...agar aapko yaad aa rahaa hai to yaqeenan hogaa aisaa koii gaanaa...yaad aa jaaye to mujhe bhii bataaiyegaa :) thankoo...
...vaise, agar ek do alfaaz yaad hoN to maiN talaash kar saktaa huN :) inshaa Allah :)
i LIKED ur siggy...kia technologically maaraa hai lol **
yaad aya ... meray zehn mein ye wali cassette chal rahi thi .. ishq sacha hai, to phir wada, nibhanaaaaaa hogaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa ... :P
rahi signature ki baat ... zamanay ka takaza hai meray bhai ... :P