hey all
I am confused about something I planned to send my long distanc husband/fiance a care package as a gift which contain
bountys chocolate, pringles chips, aik aur chocolate thi bites size ki I forgot its name ,lays , chewinggums , n a shirt n perfume, smiley face squeezeable balls for color effect n decorated the box n aik card tha
He msged Tht I love the gift when he got it
Baad mein b on n off he mentioned eating chocolates etc etc
I once ask as he didn’t mention perfume Tht hope u like the cologne I pick the safest pick from my choice cologne tu he didn’t reply koi aur baat ho gae
Shirt ka he said it fits properly bas not Tht he liked it or not
Aj subha we were talkin tu he said from where u got those small chocolates?
I asked y Wht happen
He said in how much u got it in a joking way I said y tu he said have u ever tried them
I said yar my bro suggested Tht i have tried them they r good but when i openef the pack he said its not the one I tried
Tu he was laughing n said Han koi aur khai hun gi us ny
I don’t think he should have said it atleast I sent bounty which r his favv n i tried
To do something nice for him
Phir I got upset n sham mein I msged
Yaar u r right I just tasted the chocolate its not good I planned big but got busy n last days mein when ur mom was leaving I was in hospital with mama incomplete tha Sab I even drop the plan to send it but mama papa said its lovely just pack it n bhej do now I know they were just being nice. cologne n shirt was rubbish, chocolates tasted super bad, …
There is nothing left in the box so basically u didn’t like anything mb cuz i know its better to get nothing than a bad gift
N he reply back
???
Your the weirdest person ever
Clogne I love,
Like absolutely
Shirt fits me perfectly and every1 says it looks perfect
Chewing and bounty I gave to no one
The small chocolate, lol my nephew loves it
Ajeeb ho
Bus tareef chahye thi
Best gift ever compared to the others
I replied
Nae, tareef nae chahye thi
I just excused, as a gentle gesture cuz I thought it was trashy that’s all. I’m nt weird , neither I fish for compliments from u guys
He replied
Lol pehley dhey di thi
From you guys
Lol
Kya ho gaya hai
It’s not, I told you before. It was good
Bas I haven’t reply afterwards planing to just not repeat this topic
This is what he sent next mornin
Why’d you message me the weirdest msg ever
I just spoke abt the chocolates tasting different. I just wanted your opinion. Lol you started talking abt the shirt and cologne
Lol read your msg
I sent ?
He
I was talking abt your comment
I loved the gift
Ajeeb ho
Me
Yea I was just talkin abt how I feel bad for u i guess in a nice way
He
Khair Shab khair
Nooo
Thats not good
Me
Khair let’s just drop it here
He
Your assuming
Haan
Mein paghal jangli Toh nahi hu
Gift ke baare kuch bura kahun
Lol khair, Shab khair
Read
Amanda berrys story
Kafi sad hai
Me
Nvm It’s not called assuming
Arite
Shabkhair
Oh these r the women who got rescued last year right
Amazing women
now I want to ask is it normal? isnt he being rude? I mean he always on every problem I mention says I assume stuff , or I m sensitive or distance
when he said best gift compared to others does it mean compared to my other gifts or other gifts he got ?
did I overreact? or said something inappropriate?
Meray hissab se, she is between 24.5 and 26.5 - tell me how's my math look? (quote taken from her previous thread)
It was like doing an algebra equation - let's hope she doesn't do the desi-larki waali harkat of ghataa-ing her age.
I got engaged at age of 16he was 20 **[meaning he's four years older than her]** then. when at age of 22[so she's now 18] he was done with his graduation he came to pak from states n we had Nikkah, he went back same day of function.
in the start he was nice but after sometime he get distant, after** 6months **[now she's 18.5] he got into med school for MD degree for first 2years **v had no contact except 6emails I believe.[add another two years - which makes her 20.5]**
then after 4 years **[another 4 years now made her 24.5 or it could be taken as him visiting PK 4 years after his previous visit, when she was 18, so then she's 22.5]** he came back to pak with his whole family in 2012 **[this was two years ago - so she's approximately 26.5 or 24.5] **for my bro wedding. he was normal like not so lovey dovey but good. he get romantic with me when v were alone n infront of others teases me along with my Brothers n other cousin
he treats my bro n mom n dad realllllyyyy well so I thought things r fine if not superb
he fly back he was fine than after 4-5 months he said he is not sure he talked to his parents n bro they r saying give it a time its distance which is troubling u blah blah n that he want to Prolly call it off
but next day he apologized n said I'm nt good at distance etc etc
from then to now its been 1 n 1/2years n he is getting nicer n sweeter
n in last 6 months he start saying I love yous etc n he sent gift from his pocket money on my birthday
so my question is does he really like me now, or he is just trying to give it a try
well yes 24 btw if u find me kidish u can simply just say it I posted question so if someone dun mind answering he or she may answer
not that people who judge others on their shortcomings make fun of the post I posted.
if u r bothered by maturity of some post u r more than a welcome to ignore it
well yes 24 btw if u find me kidish u can simply just say it I posted question so if someone dun mind answering he or she may answer
not that people who judge others on their shortcomings make fun of the post I posted.
if u r bothered by maturity of some post u r more than a welcome to ignore it
OP, noone meant offense. And you're right noone should make fun of it. I think people are having trouble identifying who said what
zoyi mi, take a moment and just think of what you've written. Why do you you assume that others here who don't know either you or your husband/fiance (btw, he's your nikah-shudaa husband, ab fiance kehna munasib nahin hai) would be able to tell you what he meant or intended in the IM-exchange with you.
You sent him a gift, maybe he liked, maybe he didn't.
Maybe he said thank-you, maybe he didn't.
But trying to ask for others to speculate on your relationship and how you should handle it - the obvious answer from everyone will be grow up and don't worry or fuss about choti-choti baatein. The only result of worrying is that you will taint your own relationship with your negativity, assumptions and expectations.
well yes 24 btw if u find me kidish u can simply just say it I posted question so if someone dun mind answering he or she may answer
not that people who judge others on their shortcomings make fun of the post I posted.
if u r bothered by maturity of some post u r more than a welcome to ignore it
OP, serious answer:
-yes you overreacted and are being sensitive
-yes you are reading too much into this
-no your husband/fiance (which one is it, there is a difference) didn't say anything to make you doubt his enthusiasm of any other gifts
Like I said in your previous thread, you're reading too much into it. And like someone else stated in the previous thread, concentrate on your wedding and leave these petty issues. He's said twice he likes what he sent you, and he's bothered to try on the shirt you sent him, so what more do you want? Some guys wouldn't even bother doing that. These are completely insignificant things that have absolutely no impact on your actual life. Just because he's not gushing and oohing and aahing over your gift (and let's face it, as girls we kinda want that reaction even when we give someone a hair pin), doesn't mean he didn't appreciate what was given.
In summary, instead of accusing him of hating what you sent him/said to him/whatever, just take his words at face value and let it be.
mb cuz i know its better to get nothing than a bad gift
