Re: How much Jahaiz?
My inlaws never asked or demanded anything, they are well off and civilized people, and if they weren’t and demanded stuff, my husband would have set them straight. Seeing how utterly grateful they were to my family for everything they got was nice but still, I wasn’t happy.
It’s a tradition in my mom’s family to give gold to the inlaws. My mom’s relatives were the ones pressuring her to give gifts to all the baraatis. The night after our nikkah, she spent 4 hours sorting and packing gifts for like 40 people AND KIDS, it was ridiculous. I wish I had put my foot down like I did this time.
I don’t want this to become some sort of expectation that since my parents did all this, I have to do it too. I don’t want any comparisons or a sword dangling over my head that I have to live upto this stupid family tradition. I have the perfect excuse though, Im married to a memon, I can be as cheap as I want 