Re: How much Jahaiz?
I HATE the concept of jahez, I mean which guy is comfortable in knowing the fact that the bed he sleeps on, the plates he eats in, the tv he watches is all paid by his FIL. What kind of a man is that? Isn't it the husbands responsibility to provide all of this for his OWN house.
My sister recently got married and all we gave her was gold bangles and a few very small household things. Such as one semi fancy bed sheet set, one dinner set, some very little kitchen things. Only because her husband lived with room mates so didn't own much and just before shaadi spent a ton of money (Allhamdulillah) furnishing the whole apartment from top to bottom, like everything and was oblivious of some little kitchen items needed. Of course she bought her self some clothes and makeup etc but every daughter deserves a little gift on her wedding form her parents.
As far as the question from OP i think she should speak to her husband to be and figure it out.