Unfortunately, a lot of families do…it really depends on how sweet your in laws are. alhumdulillah, even though my husband and I had our own house to furnish, my in laws didnt demand a thing from my parents (but like someone said earlier, its not like my parents listened, they still gave me some things).
But, on the other hand, my friend also married and lived with her husband separately…her in laws demanded furniture for their son’s room in Pakistan (even though they would be living in the US) and when they visited their house in the US, comments were later made along the lines of “iss ki ammi ne to blender tak nahin diya” etc etc.
If in laws care about what the girl is bringing despite them living separately, its because they are protective of their son’s earnings even after he’s married and they dont want their son to spend all of his hard earned money on furnishing the house when the girl’s parents can do it (stupid, i know).