How much is too much?

[Mezhgan]

Re: How much is too much?

@Theorist

I too would really like to know who has and hasn’t been consistent with their responses. I have a feeling the people wanting to share their past are the same posters advocating wanting to know the past of their potential rishtas. Then again I wouldn’t be surprised if it turned out to be the opposite since hypocrisy and double standards are totally standard on GS.

The reason I brought this up is that in the aforementioned thread, quite a few ladies stated that they would want to know details about a potential prospect’s past, including what he got up to at uni, as they felt that past actions reveal alot about a person’s character. In addition to this, there seems to be a tendency on here to be extremely harsh on men and delve quite deep into their past and personal lives (and I mean MI-6/ISI level intrusiveness), while being more lenient with women. A few months back, someone even suggested looking into court records for divorce proceedings if considering a proposal from a divorced gentleman.

Overall though, whether or not sharing details about one’s past is appropriate depends the individual, their significant other and the type of relationship they have their significant other. There is no right or wrong answer to this. What works for one person may not necessarily work for another as each individual and each relation is different, so I don’t think advice is terribly useful on this matter.