How much is too much?

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Re: How much is too much?

@Deeba1234

She didn’t need to tell.. she chose to..

I don’t think it’s about shifting guilt.. maybe it’s me but that would never have even ocurred to me.. If someone told me they’d told their partner their deepest darkest secrets I’d assume it would be about becoming closer..

I’ve told my husband a lot because I wanted him to know the real me and love me for that..

The reason I refer to this type of ‘sharing’ as ‘shifting guilt’ is because I have seen and heard many cases where people screw up and later walk around with their head hung in shame. They get this urge to let it out because it becomes a burden. They get the bested and the dearest of all people to share this dirty secret of theirs. They know if others found out, they would be embarrassed but if they told someone else who would make them feel better about it then they wouldn’t feel so bad about the dirty secret getting out. Some people also use this tactic to repeat the behavior only to share it again later and say sorry.