How much is too much?

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Re: How much is too much?

@sammi4ever

How much information should you share with your spouse ? Is there a limit, should you strive to share everything?

I personally share everything. I don’t like to keep anything hidden. Today I told my future hubby that I have tried drinking before. I explained it all to him, and I was shocked that he took it better than my mom. He gave me encouragement and support and was understanding, even though from his face I could tell he was a bit shaken lol. He is born, raised and lives in Pakistan, so to be honest I was not expecting this reaction.

My parents on the other hand are another story. I told them I told him because I want to share everything with my husband, and they are crying about how he might not want to marry me anymore and asking me how can I trust a person so easily/quickly. Then they also said you don’t know what kind of person he is, he may use this against you someday, etc. They say that some things are best left hidden for the betterment of the marriage. What do you make of that? I was just appalled that they would even say that. I’m supposed to be sharing my entire life with this guy, and here they are patronizing me for trusting him so much. Like WHAAATTT ?! I know that I’m right with sharing this with him, because he appreciates it, but my parents are really making me feel bad about myself. Like they have more experience than me, so maybe they have a point.

OP, i know where you coming from. i have this need too that i want to have this one person in my life as my companion with whom i can share literally everything. the past and the current both including the negatives or my weaknesses that i might not have shared with anyone else. it is this feeling, that you have at least one person who would accept you with all your good and bad and with whom you do not need to keep any pretensions.
so if you ask me i would say you did it right by sharing it with your fiance, but i understand your parents concern as well because according to parents sharing secrets of this nature with spouse is not wise.