"How much is this?"

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Re: “How much is this?”

@hareem01

I don’t know if they’re jealous or not but they become very unhappy about our expenditures…whether it’s the house furnishing, new car, my child’s drama class, my clothes or school fee.

@psyah

It’s not jealousy as such … I think they have lived a very different sort of life - a prudent life - where they have had to save every penny to give me and siblings a decent upbringing … They can’t or don’t want to understand the idea of “living in the now” and it concerns them that we are be wasteful … And I guess may be I should evaluate my contribution to them as well …

This reminds me of the first time my husband and I went shopping together..we had just gotten back from our honeymoon, and went to go buy some stuff for our apartment…towels, bathroom mats, linens etc…my MIL was spending a few days with us…when we got back from our shopping trip my husband said to her in a joking manner “dheko..aapki bahu ne kitna kharcha karwaadiya…aisay tho may kangla hojaonga”…when he left the room, my MIL gave me a very severe lecture about frivolous spending. Omg, I was so mortified and scared :sid:

It took me a couple of years and many such instances later to finally understand exactly what Psyah Bhaiya just said…she had lived a very prudent and financially strict life. The concept of pocket money or disposable income was very foreign to her, and so I learned to just let the comments and questioning looks pass.