How Much Does it Cost to Manage a Middle Class Husband?

Lifestyle Relationships
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Let’s see.

-about anywhere from 1 hour to 3 hours every night of your precious time making dinner for him, which will take a toll out on your hands with all the dishwashing, and will take a toll on your knees with all the standing you will do in the kitchen for the rest of your life (notice in a masjid how all the 60 yr old women have to sit in chairs because of osteoarthritis - embrace your future, ladies).

-emotional stress that after your body gets flabby after baby number 1 then is beyond repair after baby number 2 (not boy number 2, but BABY number 2, but some would argue, same difference) that he may leave you for another younger woman.

-a couple of thousand dollars in the year that you will likely need to borrow from your parents if you don’t have a job, or dig out of your own savings to buy him the football game tickets for the season, and a nice new DVD, and some clothes (because he wont go shopping to buy himself clothes). Oh and that bling watch he has to wear at work. You know, you have to give him gifts, otherwise he is going to think you’re an ungrateful leech.

-Your body figure to be saccrificed after birthing his kids so he doesn’t die a lonely death and has someone to pass his name onto. Because that’s the most necessary thing in life, that there be yet more Mr. and Ms. Chaudry’s running around, because dammit, that name is bordering on extinction.

-Your dignity and your parents dignity that any time there is a fight, he calls up your parents to “scold you” and put you in your place, because as a Pakistani “mard” he was never taught how to fight a real girl.

-Your independence and your autonomy as you’ll likely be living in his parents’ house, because he never got a real education and a real job, and thus can’t afford to move out at age 35. The color of the drapes are his mom’s choice, never yours.

-A limit placed on your ambition, if you were to have any, because, you can’t make more money than him, and you can’t possibly have a title better than his (in the eyes of the Pakistani community at large). Therefore, if you plan on being a doctor or a lawyer or a CEO or anything really fancy where you make money and make your people and your religion look KICK ARSE, just be ready that 90% of the men out there who are at best doing office jobs will always be intimidated by you. So…you saccrifice your ambition, bite the bullet and take a 9-5 job where there is no glamour or fame or money or self-satisfaction.

I think other ladies can add.

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Thousands of dollars you spend on sponsoring him to his and his parents' land of dreams.

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^who in the world asked you to take such a panga in the first place to import desi husband and their desi parents to NA?

the funny thing about this thread as opposed to the other thread is

this is to complain, while the NomiCA's is to know and figure out how much a husband is able to provide

maybe its just me ...

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SK youre such a party pooper

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:rotfl:

:rotfl:

who told you to get marry with boy n (where n = 1, 2, …, n) and produce baby n (where n = 1, 2, …, n).

I would suggest you to get with upper class husband so you can live peacefully. :@:

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sorry

i read up till precious time and had to read no further ... just kidding \

few points are valid though - i wont talk too much but what i am totally against is killing a girl's ambitions be it a sister, daughter or wife,

firstly there is no harm in being ambitious and husbands should encourage their wives but wives should also see what is reasonable - e.g. dont think of being ceo if she wants to study let her study if she wants to work because she is sitting at home doing nothing let her make a career n so forth

above with a whole bunch of caveats - keeping in mind the formula for perfect husband, perfect wife, perfect relationship, perfect love, perfect children, perfect house for the above described situation is yet to be discovered

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You should worry about managing husbands only if you are to get married.

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just one “Adam N Eve Apple” a day would do! :slight_smile:

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One to three hours?
Seriously can desi ladies just learn to cook?
A pretty good dinner can be done in 30 minutes.

If someone is spending anywhere close to 3 hours on a daily basis to cook is out of her/his mind.

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Dude, when I cook for 4 people, myself included - you know, my brady brunch crowd that I hang out with, then it literally takes me 3 hours to put enough food together for everyone. Cheeni gal wont eat anything for mirchi, so she's nothing different than a fussy child, and boy number 2 eats a lot. The only one who isn't a fuss pot is the Pakistani girl.

Literally, if I tell them dinner is at 7, I need to start cooking by 4.

I have no idea why it takes so long, but I tend to do things by scratch.

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This thread is so dead. Jesus.

I like a boy, and my ability to rabble rouse in life 1 plummets.

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Erm?
Do such people actually exist?

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how much does it cost to manage such a 'pick'

self respect i suppose.
happiness, fulfilling life, etc etc
thats the real cost..

so

instead of importing some loser like the one described above, ladies should go find a better person
and if there is a shortage of desi men, there are plenty of non desks as well.

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Must be something good he got that's why desi women are willing to do soo many things for him ;)

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an imported husband at it's best :)

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Mr. Jagoogar!

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Yet we see blogs and posts from women in late 20s and early 30s desperately looking for one such husband :slight_smile:

:chai:

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n = 1, 2, 3, …

:rotfl:

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this topic is a total flop ...

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It is. Why are you naach nachaa-ing in it?