How Much Does it Cost to Manage a Middle Class Husband?

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Re: How Much Does it Cost to Manage a Middle Class Husband?

If 1-3 hours of work in a day is excessive for you, then I would say he's the one deserving of the sympathy here.

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-emotional stress that after your body gets flabby after baby number 1 then is beyond repair after baby number 2 (not boy number 2, but BABY number 2, but some would argue, same difference) that he may leave you for another younger woman.

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I've heard of Greek men in their 50's threatening to leave their girlfriends in their 20's for getting fat, but never heard of or saw it from desi men. So I'll say this is just your own insecurity. Again, he's the one more deserving of sympathy for this.

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-a couple of thousand dollars in the year that you will likely need to borrow from your parents if you don't have a job, or dig out of your own savings to buy him the football game tickets for the season, and a nice new DVD, and some clothes (because he wont go shopping to buy himself clothes). Oh and that bling watch he has to wear at work. You know, you have to give him gifts, otherwise he is going to think you're an ungrateful leech.

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Wrong. Guys would prefer to do their own clothes shopping. It allows us to spend 15 minutes to get the same results that it would take 2 hours had their been an accompanying woman.

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-Your body figure to be saccrificed after birthing his kids so he doesn't die a lonely death and has someone to pass his name onto. Because that's the most necessary thing in life, that there be yet more Mr. and Ms. Chaudry's running around, because dammit, that name is bordering on extinction.

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Riight, because they'd just be his kids and not yours. Women have no interest in having their own. He's the only one who benefits if you both have kids, right?

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-Your dignity and your parents dignity that any time there is a fight, he calls up your parents to "scold you" and put you in your place, because as a Pakistani "mard" he was never taught how to fight a real girl.

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So a Pakistani girl is not a real girl? Now that I think of it, my parents never taught me how to fight neither a fake girl nor a real one either.

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-Your independence and your autonomy as you'll likely be living in his parents' house, because he never got a real education and a real job, and thus can't afford to move out at age 35. The color of the drapes are his mom's choice, never yours.

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Do your homework beforehand. Make sure you're getting married to someone you can at least tolerate if not better.

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-A limit placed on your ambition, if you were to have any, because, you can't make more money than him, and you can't possibly have a title better than his (in the eyes of the Pakistani community at large). Therefore, if you plan on being a doctor or a lawyer or a CEO or anything really fancy where you make money and make your people and your religion look KICK ARSE, just be ready that 90% of the men out there who are at best doing office jobs will always be intimidated by you. So...you saccrifice your ambition, bite the bullet and take a 9-5 job where there is no glamour or fame or money or self-satisfaction.

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Really? I know of plenty of desi women who are ambitious and married. My own mom is (well was) a doctor. Same as my khala. Where do you get the idea that men are intimidated by such women? I'd say it's more the attitude of some, where they look down on those who don't have that level of qualification being a turn off. A man wants certain things from a wife, such as-- enough time with her, her to be there for the kids etc. So naturally, a man will look for a woman whose ambitions are compatible with his requirements. Nothing wrong there. Men also adjust their ambitions to suit the family, so it's definitely a two way street.