How much do 'looks' matter?

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Re: How much do ‘looks’ matter?

^:omg:

I thought I would never reply to any thread in life. But that was way too funny.

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Re: How much do 'looks' matter?

Good topic :)

I would love to say that looks do not matter but the truth is they do. Many people reject marriage propsals based on looks. We live in a materialistic world and there is no escape from it. Often the not so good looking guys demand for very gori chiti, extremely beautiful etc etc wives. The question is are they perfect themselves? NO. Miss T. you have every right to reject a rishta that you are not comfortable with afterall it is you who will be spending your life with him. However, I find it silly when people set looks as their only or most essential criteria as looks fade with time.

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Probably the character is most important.

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I second Aarzoos's and other similar posted opinion.

Arzoo dont listen to people who say looks dont matter, people justifieing this are probably those who had to comprimise themselves.

And yeh answer to Pakolas's:

''Oh this is interesting- would the johnny levers still lust after aishwariya if she was brain dead/ mannequin-esque? ''

Pakola the embarrasingly simple answer from a guys point of view to this is YES, a johhny lever would.
However, who is talking about absolute brain-deadeadness on ther other side.

There are a plethora of girls on Earth who are extremely beautiful that have average or slightly below average brains, which as again immature as it may sound is acceptable to most of us guys.....and especially to Johhny Lever.

so, Pakola, Nobody here is talkin of the extreme of one trait and outright deficeny in the other.

The simple point remains. That girls also have a natural and birth right to have a partner who they find attraction for.

Im sure one of the main motivations behind the guy proposing for Miss T, is her looks.
So why should Miss T be denied the same.

Attraction is a natural instinct. And im sorry to have to say this, but after marriage Miss T will have to be intimate with him, and if she doesnt find the attraction, it will be more of a suffering compared to enjoyable love life.

What fairness and worth is there in, if their is only one side benefiting from intimacy in a relation.

and remember this girl has to be with this guy her wholllle life.

Why do girls always let parents emotionally and every other way possible blackmail u into marrying someone u dont like. And nobodies perfect. All proposals initially come across perfect, they have to - they are selling themself to you.

I mean Miss T, i think it wud be better if u described the guy a bit more.

Or Miss T maybe even ur demands r too high?

I find it hard to imagine a guy with whatsosever no attraction at all. as good height is often sufficient for girls. and remember Nobody is perfect.

But Whats the actual problem with him? Is he black, short, skiny, fat, bald.....

or bad combo of dem

??

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Re: How much do 'looks' matter?

beauty is in the eye of the beholder,
in the case of a rishta, trust your gut instinct..... if you get a negative gut feeling when you see the guy run as fast as you can
but if you get a positive vibe i would hang around and see what else he has to offer.

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Looks matter..and if a guy ever says that looks, height, weight doesn't matter.. and he's just aiming for a beautiful heart.. RUN cuz he's lying outta his teeth!

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That was two sentences; I'm sorry, the contest rules stated one sentence. Also, those are actually two questions, not statements. But I'll let that slide.

Winner gets a super secret PM from me- the contents of which, are obviously secret.

Sincerely,
Pakola

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Okay, that's fair, I guess. Now how many guys in a given male population would you classify as the johnny levers (approximately)? Because if that's a huge portion of the population, I am left with a super small % of mediocre-to-average looking guys who would **also **be secure enough to take on a confident, got a good head on the shoulders kinda chick. Because, cmon, **johnny lever?! **that's pushing it- he's incredibly hideous, no offence.

Wo qaghaz ki kashti
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Re: How much do 'looks' matter?

Pakola

You do understand, the first criteria for u to qualify for any attention from us is that u r a good-looking lady?
: )

If u dnt meet this check-box, im sorry even if u have the p.h.d, is no thanks.

Im telling u the truth in the stright-forward manner. I know it sucks, but This is what we are!

Timepass - February
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***some say If you want happiness..........................

‘A deaf husband and a blind wife are always a happy couple.’***............

***it could happen .............but the chances are slim..:)

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I agree. I wouldn't look at brad pitt twice either. But if it were tom cruise then we are talking about a whole another story. I've always had such a man crush on tom.

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Well Pakola.

Realistically and honestly speaking again.

Most average-guys are not ditto Johhny Levers, that was a exageration to convey the point.

But practically looking around u c so many couples consist where girl=v.beauftiful and a guy = the type that wud come in your check-out category of
'butters!' had u seen him otherwise.

'Average' guys often dont have the short height but carry have faces similar to johhnys, monkies, mouses, dogs, mutants. (Or cud have decent face but short height/physique)
Some of these hiddeous us r ur partners :)

For proof of hiddeousness, Just for once, ignore the gelled-up hair, dress, attitude and look at the natural 'us', or 'it'.

These guys that are physcially ok, but facially 'butters' i would say come in about 80% male pop category.
Ok The real nasty-shorty Johhny Levers wud be in the 10%.

Left are the 10%, tall, good physiqued, decent faced men.

Any of the 3 category types can be good or bad natured men.

as i have shown earlier, many of the 80% ave.lookin guys r the same way bad as the 10% good ones.

So Why the stereo-type on the Goodlooking ones. This is really Predijucied..

Girls there are good-looking and nice natured men out there. Why dont u be patient, and LOOK for us, the same way we look and sift for the best of u.
Girls Allways in a hurry to accept whatver offer comes.

For example, my sis good had a good recent rista from a C.A, good personality guy.

as typical paki-parents ours were adament on my sister accepting.

But he had no hair for Gods sake! and also my sis found him too 'boring' type of a person to b with him for life.

So I supported her in not saying a yes. There r other Men out there rnt they, u might aswell see all else on offer before resorting to the desperate half-decent..rite

Whats the hurry. Some parents act like its end of the world if they dont say yes.

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Re: How much do 'looks' matter?

Aren't you DD's sister?

Also, Looks are important insofar as all married turn into crumbled dessert eventually, at which point its a case of trudging through. Before you get there though, you may as well have a pretty face to scream at.

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Alrighty then!

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I am a man. <--- The truth.
Looks dont matter. <-- The lie.

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:D

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and nothing but the truth :hmmm:

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lol…mothers looks for look-personality-height waghera waghera waghera in their the prospect SIL/DIL’s
and dad goes for his pocket/her jaheiz :hehe:

sherafat ka to jaisay zamana he nahi hai :frowning:

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I like the way that title sounds - scientist.

But anyway... bottom line is that even most fugly men go for very attractive women. And they succeed.

You rarely see the vice versa.

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^ True. So that must mean women are less superficial and learn to love the beast for his heart. Men can't do the same.