Re: How much do 'looks' matter?
From a man's perspective, looks do matter. No matter how mature a man tries to sound when asked this question, but this applies universally to all men. Men go after looks, no questions about it. If a man says looks don't matter to him, he lies.
Re: How much do ‘looks’ matter?
Jaan …u r right but .. does ths matter to him tht how he looks … how other think or perceive him …n wht abt his own image in other’s mind …
Dude do you honestly have no idea how creepy you sound? 
Re: How much do 'looks' matter?
depends on your priorities - looks, views, height, money, status, family background, piety, t&a, mother in law...
i doubt any of them are better reasons than the others, we are all humans with varying needs and tolerances.
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i know.. what do i know.
Re: How much do ‘looks’ matter?
Woah some hate up there!
Re: How much do 'looks' matter?
I've read that attraction has it's important place in a marriage. To deny this would be foolish. Some element of attraction has to be there....it adds that something extra to a marriage. Even if everybody else in the world thinks your spouse is ugly....as long as YOU find him attractive...that's what matters most.
I've heard of girls marrying a guy whom they were not attracted to from the get-go....but later they were able to develop an attraction for him. At the same time I've read stories of girls who were not able to develop an attraction for their spouse even after marriage. Everyone is different. My advice is to be certain of your feelings before deciding to marry the person....as the consequences will not only affect you but your partner as well.
The problem with arranged marriage situations.....is the enormous amount of PRESSURE. Your family thinks the guy is perfect after only meeting him ONCE.....and you are facing the pressure to say "YES" after ONLY talking to him for a couple of hours. ** If it is possible*, perhaps getting to know the guy a little better *(talking to him for a longer period)** could help you determine your feelings for him and reach a decision (either yes or no) about the matter. Or if you are 100% CERTAIN that you feel no attraction for this guy......then letting the rishta go would be better. Because everyone deserves to be in a marriage where there is mutual attraction.
Re: How much do 'looks' matter?
clothes make a man :)
Re: How much do ‘looks’ matter?
clothes make a scarecrow.
manners maketh man. 
From a man's perspective, looks do matter. No matter how mature a man tries to sound when asked this question, but this applies universally to all men. Men go after looks, no questions about it. If a man says looks don't matter to him, he lies.
OF COURSE looks matter. But what u are attracted to is different to everyone.
life is not a big mystery--there are some simple truths. :D
Re: How much do 'looks' matter?
Also remember, men are more "visual" and women are more "oratory" (if that is the correct word)
So normally looks matter more to men.
Re: How much do 'looks' matter?
if u have even the slightest bit of attraction, it'll work (as uve said everything else is pretty much perfect)
guys look gorgeous as they mature... really, they do.
Also remember, men are more "visual" and women are more "oratory" (if that is the correct word)
So normally looks matter more to men.
Scientist Fayax, is this why women look prettier than men, but men talk sense and women dont?
Re: How much do 'looks' matter?
looks matter, anyone who refutes this is either in denial or insanely naive
If you don't find someone attractive at the time of marriage, keep in mind its only downhill from here. No, there is no such thing as a miracle "after marriage" change of heart or transformation. That's just a myth parents have been using for years and years to get kids (usually girls) to say yes.
And no, all hot people aren't total a-holes and all ugly ducklings aren't angels on the inside. This is just another consolation stereotype for people who want to justify their compromise.
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^:Clap:
Scientist Fayax, is this why women look prettier than men, but men talk sense and women dont?
That's what us women make u feel.. the truth is we're still way more interested in the Sephora sales than u're boring routine small-talk!
:P
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Oh this is interesting- would the johnny levers still lust after aishwariya if she was brain dead/ mannequin-esque? I mean, the way I see it is that a successful relationship is like one of those velocity vs time graphs (nerdddy, I know), you start of super steep and the motivation there is looks, you need that initial churning of the mojos I guess, and then it'll plateau and the mojo will run dry and then what? Personality, compatibility and just how much you LIKE the person will prevail. In the end; you kind of have to be both; hot on the outside and inside.
Personally, hot on the inside vs outside's starting to become overrated- I am more interested in hot on the top-side (read: brains!!!). A man that can piece together a sentence and reference classical mythology/ indie music/ non-mainstream pop culture/ russian literature wins!
Re: How much do 'looks' matter?
pakola, o venus of gupshup, could i buy you a cup of free trade kissima? or would you rather doestevsky to some bossa nova instead?
what did i win?