Anyone who says this has obviously never even browsed a matrimonial site. Take half an hour to have a look thru Shaadi.com or some similar site and I can guarantee you’ll come across a number of guys who are more attractive, successful etc. than the small pool of guys ur parents (and friends of theirs) might know. Do you seriously think out of those thousands that are signed up they are all jobless, ugly losers lol?? I know of a stunning girl who works in banking who found her other half on there (he’s in the same line of work, attractive and earning six figures as she is), she simply didn’t want to restrict herself to the doctors sons in our extended circle.
There are a lot of ppl on there who simply don’t live in desi areas or have a desi ‘network’ of aunties to rely on. Some of them are just independent and would rather find a partner themselves than completely rely on parents and aunties to find their partner, sometimes their parents completely ignore what their son/daughter wants and tend to only focus on what they themselves want in a SIL/DIL, there are so many reasons..
In my brother’s case he got 20-odd proposals but they were all the same type of girls that he wasn’t interested in.. overly quiet and subservient, only doctors and had really really fair skin (I mean literally porcelain) that he didn’t find attractive. He signed up to a matrimonial site cos he was sick to death of these** same** type of girls being pushed his way.. there were 4 or 5 on there that he liked and contacted but nothing really came of it in the end (various reasons, mostly they lived too far away) but he doesn’t regret it because at least he tried (he’s now marrying another girl he met himself).
I know some ppl think that the majority of men on there are only out for ‘fun’ but isn’t that a reflection of real-life as well? You could prob say the risk is about the same of a guy being a player if u meet him urself on a night out with ur friends. Most girls aren’t stupid enought to blindly think ‘he’s the one’ after a few online conversations and the exchange of numbers, they’ll take a number of months to see if they really are compatible, meet their friends and family etc. If a person uses their brain and doesn’t have their head in the clouds matrimonial sites are a brilliant tool to meet someone imo..