How matrimonial sites work

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Re: How matrimonial sites work

i doubt any educated, good-looking, smart, decent background, practicing muslims (humble and patient) guys exist on matrimonial sites.

cuz parents of such guys are always surrounded by so many aunties (who have daughters).

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Zobia, a lot of guys just don't have the time to socialize, or live in a different state/country- which means parents can't look for them.

Just cause a guy is on a matrimonial site doesn't make him less practicing, less humble or patient

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Zobi,

You'd be surprised.

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Anyone who says this has obviously never even browsed a matrimonial site. Take half an hour to have a look thru Shaadi.com or some similar site and I can guarantee you'll come across a number of guys who are more attractive, successful etc. than the small pool of guys ur parents (and friends of theirs) might know. Do you seriously think out of those thousands that are signed up they are all jobless, ugly losers lol?? I know of a stunning girl who works in banking who found her other half on there (he's in the same line of work, attractive and earning six figures as she is), she simply didn't want to restrict herself to the doctors sons in our extended circle.

There are a lot of ppl on there who simply don't live in desi areas or have a desi 'network' of aunties to rely on. Some of them are just independent and would rather find a partner themselves than completely rely on parents and aunties to find their partner, sometimes their parents completely ignore what their son/daughter wants and tend to only focus on what they themselves want in a SIL/DIL, there are so many reasons..

In my brother's case he got 20-odd proposals but they were all the same type of girls that he wasn't interested in.. overly quiet and subservient, only doctors and had really really fair skin (I mean literally porcelain) that he didn't find attractive. He signed up to a matrimonial site cos he was sick to death of these** same** type of girls being pushed his way.. there were 4 or 5 on there that he liked and contacted but nothing really came of it in the end (various reasons, mostly they lived too far away) but he doesn't regret it because at least he tried (he's now marrying another girl he met himself).

I know some ppl think that the majority of men on there are only out for 'fun' but isn't that a reflection of real-life as well? You could prob say the risk is about the same of a guy being a player if u meet him urself on a night out with ur friends. Most girls aren't stupid enought to blindly think 'he's the one' after a few online conversations and the exchange of numbers, they'll take a number of months to see if they really are compatible, meet their friends and family etc. If a person uses their brain and doesn't have their head in the clouds matrimonial sites are a brilliant tool to meet someone imo..

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Re: How matrimonial sites work

I kknow at least 3 people who got married through matrimonial sites and are happy togther. The men are all professionals. On teh other hand through regular "arranged methods" people want only very beautiful, thin and well connected matches for their sons.

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Re: How matrimonial sites work

i hate shaadi.com
i had to request them to delete my account

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Re: How matrimonial sites work

its helping to find a good friend and good life partner ms soni,

Matrimonail

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Re: How matrimonial sites work

90% of people especially guys on matrimonial sites aren't serious about getting married,and are actually looking for girls they can flirt/time pass with.

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Re: How matrimonial sites work

you should get your parents involved and as it has already been mentioned by few that most of the people take such sites as time pass. So you have to be extremely careful.

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Re: How matrimonial sites work

I would have thought that guys just looking for gfs etc wouldn't be such a problem on paid matrimonial sites.. they'd just use Facebook..

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Maybe they're fussy or just aunties' girls (or boys) aren't up to scratch.. My brother turned down more than a dozen proposals and signed up on Shaadi.com.. (He ended up meeting and marrying someone who wasn't on there tho.. a friend of a friend).. There were some gorgeous girls on there for all sorts of reasons.. some lived in places were there wasn't much of a desi community or their families didn't know many ppl, some were divorced and some simply just didn't like any of the potentials that their families had already introduced them to..