How matrimonial sites work

Lifestyle Relationships
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Hello Everybody!

I request you people to please clear my confusion.
Recently I’ve joined a matrimonial site, the reason being ofcourse to search for life-partner.But I have no idea how these matrimonial sites actually work.I mean to say, there I found someone with whom I’ve started chatting for some two weeks, and we both are intending to take things further with each other.And we intend to meet up face-to-face in a week.
So, my confusion is, should we make our parents involved right away or we should make our parents involved after we get to know each other very well and become sure about each other?

Anyone has any experiences with matrimonial sites?How did it all work out for you?

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I don't know anything about matrimonial sites, but I wouldn't meet him alone. You never know how someone might really turn out. Meet him in a really public place and take one or two friends along. Your friends don't have to be stuck to you, but they should be close by... it's just to make sure the guy isn't creepy. Then you can also get input from your friends.

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Hey listen rather read and read very carefully. One of my very good friend (girl) got into one matrimonial site mehndi.com and she suffered the nightmares of her life. Every single guy whom she tried to hook up with, in the end cheated with her and she came to know that either the guy is already married (multiple times) or have previous girls or children with themn.. I can PM you more details if you are not believing it and want more details.

Long story short, my sincere advice to you is to stay away from it and if not, atleast DO NOT trust anyone. But again why go there when you are not going to believe or trust anyone.

I'm sure there are better ways to get into marriage.. I just have zero trust on these sites..

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how matrimonial sites work?

they don't work

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it worked for my cousin. she found her husband on naseeb.com and they have been married for 6 months now.

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Seriously? UGH, what is wrong with some people?!

Purple100... be very cautious. That's why I suggested taking people with you. Sometimes you get so lost in the person and don't notice other things that matter. But your friends might be able to observe more and advise better when they see him.

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In Pakistan, matrimonial sites are mostly used for fun and flirting. Serious people only go there if they are hopeless otherwise.

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There is more to risk than benefit (May be rare) going on these sites.

These sites like NU and SidNY said, are mostly used for 'other' purpose.

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I don't like the idea of matrimonial sites. More power to those that have found success using them.

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i'll echo what the other posters said and just be wary of who u give ur details out to and never never neverrrrrr meet someone alone in a private place. u can't trust ppl these days

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But meeting them in a public place isn't risky at all.

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Really? There will be no assurance of the person's motive and background.

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What can he/she do to you in a public place?

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The issue is not just meeting one time. It goes beyond that and that is where problem could begin. Anyways, whatever works for someone.

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I dont think matrimonial sites are a bad idea. Here is why:

If your family isnt well connected or wealthy or social or even huge for you to find a cousin to marry...then you're basically single. If you work a demanding job, that just makes it worse because it leaves you with 0 time for meeting and dating someone.

I think with the right approach...its not a bad tool.

My suggestion is to get your parents involved from the get-go. If the man is serious about marriage and honest, he has nothing to fear and will have no issue speaking or meeting your family. He should inform his parents he is speaking to someone and so should you. It would be ideal if both parents spoke and at least introductions were made before you two met.

IF you dont, the chances of people meeting you for fun increase because alone you are just a girl...no one is standing behind you and he has no one to answer to.

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I think they're a good idea.. why restrict urself to a little pond of ppl when there's a whole ocean out there :D

If ur parents are concerned keep them informed every step of the way or u could even ask them if they fancy browsing thru some profiles themselves. Like someone already pointed out if ur planning on meeting someone always arrange it to be in a public place and if possible take a friend along..

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OMG that is crazy but not shocking! I have heard alot of these men on these matrimonial sites are just looking for a good time and not a serious relationship!

Scary!

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Hi,

I have been on such sites. The problem is, I had to go on one plus my family is relatively small.

I told my mother I was joining. And i told any who contacted that I want parental involvement from the inset. I also wanted someone from the UK like myself and born and brought up in this country.

Again before you take this step - tell your parents.

I don't think its a good idea meeting anyone. My parents are actively involved. One guys parents came to my house. Yes I did talk to him a bit online - to make sure he is not a complete lunatic.

However I would limit things like - I live at and I work at - THEY really don't need to know the ins and out. And the last thing you need is a stalker. keep it simple.

And if he is serious he will get his parents involved. I think those people with multiple marriages and girlfriends would want to meet a girl. Not tell his parents and get them involved.

Unless thats one seriously twisted family! But you are much better off involving your parents.

There are men on these sites - looking for fun, some who are already married and looking for a good time.

I would be cautious. If you are taking such a step. Tell your parents. The love and respect you like you do them. I am sure they will understand and help you find someone perfect.

If this does not appeal to you. Ask them to look at buros (my parents did join some, but no luck)

Unfortunately - your spouse does not always fall from the sky straight into your lap. If he/she did you may need to be using crutches for a while!

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^ so what happened..did u finally find someone using these matrimonial sites?