Re: how many of you personally know of any honor killing ?
we cannot solve social problems by just saying this is sick and that's not.
we hav to look deep into the problem to see why its happening n continuing to increase. wat r the factors involved and how this could b stopped.
When mom says" mur kyoon nahin jtay..." its temporary. when its goes beyond tolerance ppl take measure steps. even though they might regret later.
for me i already said that i don't think the girls r always innocent n all clean. its both side's equal fault. the murderers r wrong so r most of these girls.
there should be some sort of counselling for problem, rebellious kids. most kids start showing pattern behaviour at young age which becomes serious as they grow n find more freedom. since sometimes ppl find them too contrained by law in discipling these kids they end up making extreme choices.
There was a thread here a 14 yrs dating a 11 yrs. now if the parents of these kids will try to stop them these kids will resist to their most. Obviously they can't disown them. Social services will get involved, relatives won't be quite. So they'll keep on solving the issue with their best resources. Now not all end up killing them but some might depending on their own personal strengths and core values.
If a person kills someone just out of blue or for fun, money, sex etc that could be sick but if parents killing kids they gav birth n raised with all love then there's extreme measure issues involved. they cannot be just labelled as sick or abnormal. they r helpless families that need serious help. Islamic organizations who collect zakat and donations whole time should come forward and do something abt this. i don't fall for the trap of just blaming one party and sympathizing with other.i try to see whole picture.
sometimes yes it could one party that is totally wrong or too extreme and conservative.
Islamically u r not allowed to kill any one not even ur unborn, undeveloped child. but then u r not allowed to disobey ur parents and go against their wishes. Kids can do watever they want, marry whoever they want is just westernized version of islam. they r not. Islamically If ur dad n mom r not happy with u Allah is simply not happy with u. for me this is enough reason for both parties to be wrong.