Ditto.
I guess the only good thing is that my future hubby and I share the same viewpoints and he has re-assured me like a million times that he will always take my side over his own families.
Ouch. That would raise an alarm for me if i was in your place. If he can say this to you about his family with whom he has lived for years now i m hoping this would make you think more then be happy :-)
so are you looking for MIL's for your cousins or looking for husbands for your cousins? :p
ps. btw, did u marry your cousin?
no my mom is not that good. Main apnee cousins per zulm hota nahee daikh sakta :)
PCG, you are talking some sense now … umer k saath tajarba aa HEE jata hai ! :k:
one less “mun toor” jawab, can save a day girl, think about it (I am talking about both saas and bhahoos) and beside that, mun toot jawab does not do any good anyway.
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That's why I'm so antisocial. I know that if I do get into conversations and people say stupid things, I'm going to be really tempted to run my mouth.
Although sometimes that works out well. I had a recent encounter with a family who was asking too many questions for their own good...and to drive them away, I opened my worst weapon: My Mouth.
Took care of that problem.
Well sure, mun toor jawab is a useful weapon in some cases but only where you need to burn the ships...... husband/wife, saas/bahoo etc are not such relationships..
That's why I'm so antisocial. I know that if I do get into conversations and people say stupid things, I'm going to be really tempted to run my mouth.
Although sometimes that works out well. I had a recent encounter with a family who was asking too many questions for their own good...and to drive them away, I opened my worst weapon: My Mouth.
Took care of that problem.
Ouch. That would raise an alarm for me if i was in your place. If he can say this to you about his family with whom he has lived for years now i m hoping this would make you think more then be happy :-)
Not really ...it shows me that he has a very rational mind and can/will understand when his family is being irrational. It also shows me that he is not one of those type of guys that is easily influenced by his family (the type that like to meddle). He knows his family better than anyone else obviously ..... so it makes sense to me that he would know if they are capable of being irrational ever.
It also shows me that he will really value the position of "husband". And that title will win over other titles. I am not saying that he is the disrespectful or not caring type. .. he is very respectful AND caring to his family ....but he is the type to call them out on something if he does not agree. And he told me he will never agree with the fact if his family do something or says something that makes me feel awkward, or put me in an awkward position. It is more important to him that me and him are always on the same page (aka .. on each other sides). We have known each other for 2 years already and have never argued. It has solidified and made our relationship extremely strong and I am a lucky girl to already be in this position before marriage. It makes sense that he wants to continue the trend of our solidarity after marriage. We are each others best friends and biggest supporters.
Lol. Its ok if you think that way. But I definitely dont. He is the eldest son ... his opinions and thoughts carry a lot of weight and his parents consider it. So it will only be to my benefit that I will have a person like this looking after me post shaadi. My own parents consider themselves the luckiest parents because they know how my future hubby thinks and is. They know that he will take care of me and my "susraal" will never be able to make my life uncomfortable or awkward or even god forbid take advantage of me.
These situations may never arrise inshAllah ...but it is still a nice feeling to know you have someone unconditionally on your side if it does. ..... which it might because I will be the "bhabi" of his household!!!!!
haha…isleya kisi or ki cousin per zulm kernay ka sooch lia 
btw, jab app nay kuhd nahi ki to dooseroon ko kia peri hai k app ki cousins say keray :p. kia humari khud ki nahi hain? 
Ok. We just think differently and its O.K. I just don't understand how him being unconditionaly on your side is a good thing but he can't be that way for his family and you think that's good?! Hmm. But ya...I am happy for you and the confidence you have in your to be husband :) All the best.
Not really ...it shows me that he has a very rational mind and can/will understand when his family is being irrational. It also shows me that he is not one of those type of guys that is easily influenced by his family (the type that like to meddle). He knows his family better than anyone else obviously ..... so it makes sense to me that he would know if they are capable of being irrational ever.
It also shows me that he will really value the position of "husband". And that title will win over other titles. I am not saying that he is the disrespectful or not caring type. .. he is very respectful AND caring to his family ....but he is the type to call them out on something if he does not agree. And he told me he will never agree with the fact if his family do something or says something that makes me feel awkward, or put me in an awkward position. It is more important to him that me and him are always on the same page (aka .. on each other sides). We have known each other for 2 years already and have never argued. It has solidified and made our relationship extremely strong and I am a lucky girl to already be in this position before marriage. It makes sense that he wants to continue the trend of our solidarity after marriage. We are each others best friends and biggest supporters.
Lol. Its ok if you think that way. But I definitely dont. He is the eldest son ... his opinions and thoughts carry a lot of weight and his parents consider it. So it will only be to my benefit that I will have a person like this looking after me post shaadi. My own parents consider themselves the luckiest parents because they know how my future hubby thinks and is. They know that he will take care of me and my "susraal" will never be able to make my life uncomfortable or awkward or even god forbid take advantage of me.
These situations may never arrise inshAllah ...but it is still a nice feeling to know you have someone unconditionally on your side if it does. ..... which it might because I will be the "bhabi" of his household!!!!!
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my mum is the best sass ...but i hve 2 bhabbis...one is a really good bahbbi n ones a ***** ( who doesnt look after her kids and her husband..who accepts me and my mum and bhabbi to look after her and clean after her and her kids..) who takes us being her slave...i wish i hve a family like mine wen i get married
Sometimes that’s what they deserve…and the satisfaction is SO worth it…esp loud mouth stupid women. 
PS: I’ve never experienced that satisfaction 