How many husbands

[Reha]

Re: How many husbands

@Muzna

my point was not to bring up some insanely extreme and lopsided examples.....just wanted to know how many of us have noticed this sort of behaviour.....

there's one in my group of friends that I've described. there's one amongst my colleagues at work.....he's the joke of the cafeteria whenever the boys plan to go out....everyone knows that this guy will be on the phone begging with his wife and ultimately she will say no.

is it really that common?

I cannot think of anyone...ooh one guy...but his wife is actually quite mean to him. I feel bad for him.

[Naabigh]

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I can’t answer because I haven’t discussed my possible answer with her and sought her permission to post it …

[khawateen]

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my husband’s best friend (or used to be) from his childhood days is like that sadly.

husband and him got married around the same time and he thought we could now do everything as a couple but NOPES. his wifey dont like.

its sickening just how much control she has over him.. the guy cant even eat his food if she doesnt want him to.

she started off by hating his family.. so she cut him off slowly from them. everyone blamed the guy cuz it was HIS responsibility to make sure that doesnt happen.

next up were ALL of his friends. he was such a social guy .. and now.. no one invites him anywhere to anything cuz we all know waht the answer will be

you can expect how he will act or what he will reply with in any given situation. that is how predictable he is..

like if he calls up after being invited to an event.. we will knwo there is halabaloo in their house over the invite cuz she probably doesnt wanna go.. its SO routine now.. he will take the invite.. and you can expect a phone call anytime after that.. we pick up the phone and before he can say anything we can say it out first F nay mana kerdiya, haina?

and the answer is always a resouding YES.

its a joke to everyone now.

my husband often calls me from work and says he is meeting up with a few friends after work, if that will be ok.. that last part is not so much asking for permission as it is a confidence vote of me keeping the kids alive (or me staying alive with them 2 for a few more hours).. and im always ok with it. days im not.. i say so. which are few.

same way i have my day outs too with my gfriends. its balanced.

now in this guy’s situation.. the girl is ALWAYS either at her mom’s.. or out with a friend.. and who gets teh kids? HIM.

he is a GREAT dad.. im in awe .. they had 4 kids in 5 yrs. and i have never seen him getting frustrated at em (ok this maybe derailing)

kher… ya now he doesnt have a lot of time to mingle around

but even when they had no kids.. she hated him going out.. she wanted him all to herself … or to take him to ppl she wanted him to meet (her family and her friends)

its all the guy’s fault.. clearly no one was of importance to him otherwise he would have spoken up.

reason behind why he does this?

he is a soft hearted guy… and he hates conflict. and boy can this girl make you feel guilty. so he says .. its better to have her happy than her mad. keeps the environment in the house ‘happy’…

he at times feels so lonely.. he will call husband up after heaving heard there has been a gathering of some sorts.. like a bbq with just the guys.. and ask why he wasnt invited..

i believe.. once mr.tall replied like this

well it was a guy thing. dress code were balls. we knew your’s were in your wife’s purse and she was visiting her maica. kaise athay tum? (she HATES it if he disturbs her at her mom’s house!!!).

its gotten SO insanely bad over the yrs… he is like a puppet now. its always F was saying/is saying/wants etc etc… damn guy.. what are YOU saying?! what are YOUR thoughts?!

he has realized his faults but its way way too late now.. no one cares anymore.

[ABC1111]

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^I cried :(

[Iconoclast]

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@khawateen

my husband's best friend (or used to be) from his childhood days is like that sadly.

husband and him got married around the same time and he thought we could now do everything as a couple but NOPES. his wifey dont like.

its sickening just how much control she has over him.. he is a soft hearted guy... and he hates conflict. and boy can this girl make you feel guilty. so he says .. its better to have her happy than her mad. keeps the environment in the house 'happy'...

he at times feels so lonely.. he will call husband up after heaving heard there has been a gathering of some sorts.. like a bbq with just the guys.. and ask why he wasnt invited..

i believe.. once mr.tall replied like this

well it was a guy thing. dress code were balls. we knew your's were in your wife's purse and she was visiting her maica. kaise athay tum? (she HATES it if he disturbs her at her mom's house!!!!).

its gotten SO insanely bad over the yrs... he is like a puppet now. its always F was saying/is saying/wants etc etc... damn guy.. what are YOU saying?! what are YOUR thoughts?!

he has realized his faults but its way way too late now.. no one cares anymore.

I have a close friend in a similar situation although unlike this soft hearted guy, he has tried everything. He tried reasoning, he tried love, he tried talking to her parents and relatives to knock some sense into her. All that didn't work, he even tried violence.

He punched her, kicked her, and once even physically pushed her outside the house and locked the door. Still didn't work. She will throw a tantrum each time he spends time with his family or friends which will continue for days. Finally to have some peace of mind he has stopped going.

[khawateen]

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Aside from violence... This guy has tried it all too.... Even seperation... Didnt work. He went bk cuz the kids need him as the only sane parent. He knows if there were a divorce... His kids would be royally screwed.

Their marriage is good for them on the whole so divorce wouldnt make sense... Who gets divorced for a bit of socializibg eh?..,

[Hmmna]

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@Iconoclast

I have a close friend in a similar situation although unlike this soft hearted guy, he has tried everything. He tried reasoning, he tried love, he tried talking to her parents and relatives to knock some sense into her. All that didn't work, he even tried violence.

He punched her, kicked her, and once even physically pushed her outside the house and locked the door. Still didn't work. She will throw a tantrum each time he spends time with his family or friends which will continue for days. Finally to have some peace of mind he has stopped going.

Ughh that's cringe inducing. He even tried violence puke puke puke. Y dsnt he divorce.

[Pakilarka]

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When my friends call me for cricket.... I ask I my wife, If she approves I am like 10 mins, I will be there.

If she doesn't, I call back and say "I am Grounded"

[apple_blossom]

Re: How many husbands

kon aurtain hai yeh !!

[ShahreyarKhan]

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i didnt expect this from you guys - the problem is some men want their wives to own them

@Pakilarka

When my friends call me for cricket.... I ask I my wife, If she approves I am like 10 mins, I will be there.

If she doesn't, I call back and say "I am Grounded"

@Decent_6Chora

me me

I cant go to cricket unless she goes to shopping a day before :(

every Sunday game is costing me b/w 50-100 bucks ... :(

and thats not 'regular' shopping. Thats just cricket aadla-badla-shopping....

[Decent_6Chora]

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This is insane.

Its always good to keep balance b/w couple. Balance not in the sense of calculating it to double fraction points but still…

This is not love this is purely mean in fact cruel.

@khawateen

my husband’s best friend (or used to be) from his childhood days is like that sadly.

husband and him got married around the same time and he thought we could now do everything as a couple but NOPES. his wifey dont like.

its sickening just how much control she has over him.. the guy cant even eat his food if she doesnt want him to.

she started off by hating his family.. so she cut him off slowly from them. everyone blamed the guy cuz it was HIS responsibility to make sure that doesnt happen.

next up were ALL of his friends. he was such a social guy .. and now.. no one invites him anywhere to anything cuz we all know waht the answer will be

you can expect how he will act or what he will reply with in any given situation. that is how predictable he is..

like if he calls up after being invited to an event.. we will knwo there is halabaloo in their house over the invite cuz she probably doesnt wanna go.. its SO routine now.. he will take the invite.. and you can expect a phone call anytime after that.. we pick up the phone and before he can say anything we can say it out first F nay mana kerdiya, haina?

and the answer is always a resouding YES.

its a joke to everyone now.

my husband often calls me from work and says he is meeting up with a few friends after work, if that will be ok.. that last part is not so much asking for permission as it is a confidence vote of me keeping the kids alive (or me staying alive with them 2 for a few more hours).. and im always ok with it. days im not.. i say so. which are few.

same way i have my day outs too with my gfriends. its balanced.

now in this guy’s situation.. the girl is ALWAYS either at her mom’s.. or out with a friend.. and who gets teh kids? HIM.

he is a GREAT dad.. im in awe .. they had 4 kids in 5 yrs. and i have never seen him getting frustrated at em (ok this maybe derailing)

kher… ya now he doesnt have a lot of time to mingle around

but even when they had no kids.. she hated him going out.. she wanted him all to herself … or to take him to ppl she wanted him to meet (her family and her friends)

its all the guy’s fault.. clearly no one was of importance to him otherwise he would have spoken up.

reason behind why he does this?

he is a soft hearted guy… and he hates conflict. and boy can this girl make you feel guilty. so he says .. its better to have her happy than her mad. keeps the environment in the house ‘happy’…

he at times feels so lonely.. he will call husband up after heaving heard there has been a gathering of some sorts.. like a bbq with just the guys.. and ask why he wasnt invited..

i believe.. once mr.tall replied like this

well it was a guy thing. dress code were balls. we knew your’s were in your wife’s purse and she was visiting her maica. kaise athay tum? (she HATES it if he disturbs her at her mom’s house!!!).

its gotten SO insanely bad over the yrs… he is like a puppet now. its always F was saying/is saying/wants etc etc… damn guy.. what are YOU saying?! what are YOUR thoughts?!

he has realized his faults but its way way too late now.. no one cares anymore.

[Pakilarka]

Re: How many husbands

@ShahreyarKhan

i didnt expect this from you guys - the problem is some men want their wives to own them

Come on Bro dont be upset... u know am joking. Its all under control ;). Begum doesnt push it, coz she knows I have a Other side too; pretty much like Dr Banner (Hulk).

[Muzna]

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there you......I'm sure there are many more examples out there.....perhaps some that are right within our social circles but are so good at keeping it covered that we may never know.

as much as these women insist that they are keeping "balance" in their relationship the result is nothing but imbalance.....

[Confucius]

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I think it is unfair when women or men enforce so much upon their spouses. I no likey, but I am sure there are a lot more men than women who don't let their spouses out of their site, or go out with friends or even to see family.

[Iconoclast]

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@khawateen

Aside from violence... This guy has tried it all too.... Even seperation... Didnt work. He went bk cuz the kids need him as the only sane parent. He knows if there were a divorce... His kids would be royally screwed.

Their marriage is good for them on the whole so divorce wouldnt make sense... Who gets divorced for a bit of socializibg eh?..,

@Hmmna

Ughh that's cringe inducing. He even tried violence puke puke puke. Y dsnt he divorce.

Same reason Khawateen mentioned, he feels (and i think he is right) that if he leaves the kids will be driven crazy by the crazy woman, plus fear that if he divorces her what will she do with the kids.

[McPendo]

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Its like the song says "Even lovers need space away from themselves....but please don't leave me." So it's sort of a bitter sweet situation in which both men and women want to be controlled.

[Hmmna]

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Same reason Khawateen mentioned, he feels (and i think he is right) that if he leaves the kids will be driven crazy by the crazy woman, plus fear that if he divorces her what will she do with the kids.

so he isnt worried how beating up his wife will affect his children?
this is a load of bull

[automne77]

I feel you are talking about someone I am related to. Girl cut off guys family, she loves socializing with ppl who think she is the queen bee so she can show the guy what he has missed out in life. The guy is with his wife by choice, and prefers her family over his. And she leaves the kids with him while she socializes to show him what it feels like to take care of the kids.

Everything has to be done as a couple. They even wear matching clothes :halo:

@khawateen:8897831

my husband’s best friend (or used to be) from his childhood days is like that sadly.

husband and him got married around the same time and he thought we could now do everything as a couple but NOPES. his wifey dont like.

its sickening just how much control she has over him.. the guy cant even eat his food if she doesnt want him to.

she started off by hating his family.. so she cut him off slowly from them. everyone blamed the guy cuz it was HIS responsibility to make sure that doesnt happen.

next up were ALL of his friends. he was such a social guy .. and now.. no one invites him anywhere to anything cuz we all know waht the answer will be

you can expect how he will act or what he will reply with in any given situation. that is how predictable he is..

like if he calls up after being invited to an event.. we will knwo there is halabaloo in their house over the invite cuz she probably doesnt wanna go.. its SO routine now.. he will take the invite.. and you can expect a phone call anytime after that.. we pick up the phone and before he can say anything we can say it out first F nay mana kerdiya, haina?

and the answer is always a resouding YES.

its a joke to everyone now.

my husband often calls me from work and says he is meeting up with a few friends after work, if that will be ok.. that last part is not so much asking for permission as it is a confidence vote of me keeping the kids alive (or me staying alive with them 2 for a few more hours).. and im always ok with it. days im not.. i say so. which are few.

same way i have my day outs too with my gfriends. its balanced.

now in this guy’s situation.. the girl is ALWAYS either at her mom’s.. or out with a friend.. and who gets teh kids? HIM.

he is a GREAT dad.. im in awe .. they had 4 kids in 5 yrs. and i have never seen him getting frustrated at em (ok this maybe derailing)

kher… ya now he doesnt have a lot of time to mingle around

but even when they had no kids.. she hated him going out.. she wanted him all to herself … or to take him to ppl she wanted him to meet (her family and her friends)

its all the guy’s fault.. clearly no one was of importance to him otherwise he would have spoken up.

reason behind why he does this?

he is a soft hearted guy… and he hates conflict. and boy can this girl make you feel guilty. so he says .. its better to have her happy than her mad. keeps the environment in the house ‘happy’…

he at times feels so lonely.. he will call husband up after heaving heard there has been a gathering of some sorts.. like a bbq with just the guys.. and ask why he wasnt invited..

i believe.. once mr.tall replied like this

well it was a guy thing. dress code were balls. we knew your’s were in your wife’s purse and she was visiting her maica. kaise athay tum? (she HATES it if he disturbs her at her mom’s house!!!).

its gotten SO insanely bad over the yrs… he is like a puppet now. its always F was saying/is saying/wants etc etc… damn guy.. what are YOU saying?! what are YOUR thoughts?!

he has realized his faults but its way way too late now.. no one cares anymore.

[Masi_Museebtay]

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Everything has to be done as a couple. They even wear matching clothes :halo:

this is the funniest thing I’ve read in a while!

[LP]

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