Are there any female Guppies on this board who are in a polygamous marriage?
I mean Polygamy in Islam has been discussed to death on this forum, but I don’t ever remember a female Guppie giving her personal experiences.
Atleast do you guys know of any women who are in such situations?
Ever The Curious Brahmin
Andhra1!!!
.. and why this blinking !!! u want to make fun of others beliefs and if not u wanna learn stop acting like an idiot..
Well, I know this guy thru a friend of mine. This guy lives in a building in my neighborhood which is 90 percent Muslim.
He has four wives, for whom he rents four seperate apartments. He spends a night with all of them, how he divides the time of four wives into 7 days is beyond me but he manages somehow. According to this friend of mine, the guy is very open about it and tells him he really enjoys his time with all four
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I also know a guy in from my village in Pakistan who also has three wives. His family is rich, so he can afford it. But he is a typical spoiled righ “kid”…
I know around 20 sisters who have one or more co-wivies, most of the sisters are American muslims (if it matters). As for me, i'm not married...but if he gives me all my rights, why should there be a problem??
Allahu Alim
'Rabbee zidnee`ilmaa'
My Lord! Increase me in knowledge.[20:114]
The Prophet (sallallaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) said:
"Whoever sets out on a path to seek knowledge, Allaah will make easy his path to Paradise."
[Saheeh Muslim]
Yes my Phuppi is.
Why, Andhra, do you perceive a problem with that?
Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest ~ Quran XIII.28
One of my uncles in Pakistan is maried to 2 women, his first wife couldn’t have children so she kept naggin’ him to take a second wife… Now he’s happily married with 2 wives and 1 son from his second wife all living in the same house… He loves both his wives to bits…
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These 2 ladies are like sisters to each other, there’s always the odd cat fight now and then but overall they seem very happy…
I don’t see anything wrong with polygamy if the wives have no problem with it, he can satisfy all of them sexually, love them all, treat them equally and support them financially…
In 7th century Arabia men could have as many wives as they wanted, 10, 20, 30, 50 etc.
Islam limited this to only 4 wives, even then if the man couldn’t treat all of his wives equaly he is supposed to remain monogamous.
“If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice, two or three or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with them, then only one” (4:3).
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You got a problem with polygamy?
One of the reasons it's allowed in Islam is for the welfare of widows and orphans.
It's better than Sati (cremating widows with there dead husband) and not letting widows re-marry and dress in white for the rest of there lives like the hindus are supposed to do isn't it?
Look what your hinduism says about polygamy:
'Though Rama had married Sita to be the queen, he married many other wives for sexual pleasure in accordance with the royal customs. (Ayodhya Kandam 8th Chapter, Page 28).
Stop the bluddy Akhiyaan maaring, it’s driving me crazeyyy…
andhra did you ever notice indian god
"subramanya" with two wifes?
Ditto!
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“I put my trust in Allah, my Lord and your Lord! There is not a moving creature, but He has a grasp of its forelock. Verily, my Lord is on the straight path. (The truth)”
(11:55-56)
“…Indeed my prayer, my sacrifice, my living and my dying are for Allaah, the Lord of the worlds” (6:162)
Lets not defend unjust practices just becuz some hindu decided to point them out.
Today, there is NO reason other than lust for a man to have 2 wives.
It ought to have been strictly limited from hundreds to 1 wife. But this loophole of 4 wives is meant to test the lust of men.
Is this in North America?
If so then he is also claiming them as girlfriends and not wives because polygamy is illegal and the man can go to jail!
Are there cases like this taking place in North America or the West where a muslim male has more than one wife but keeps it hidden as co-habitation with mistresses or girl-friends?
thought I’ll share these articles with you ppl…
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Originally posted by PyariCgudia:
**Lets not defend unjust practices just becuz some hindu decided to point them out.
Today, there is NO reason other than lust for a man to have 2 wives.
It ought to have been strictly limited from hundreds to 1 wife. But this loophole of 4 wives is meant to test the lust of men.**
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Not following a certain guideline is one thing. All that shows is weakness of faith, which we all have in us to different extents.
However, to judge the authenticity, veracity or utility of anything that has been quoted in the Quran or Ahadees is simply wrong.
We dont have to stoop down so low as to malign and erroneously judge Islamic guidelines in order to justify our weakness of faith.
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Originally posted by Akif:
**However, to judge the authenticity, veracity or utility of anything that has been quoted in the Quran or Ahadees is simply wrong.
We dont have to stoop down so low as to malign and erroneously judge Islamic guidelines in order to justify our weakness of faith.**
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Agreed....
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Originally posted by PyariCgudia:
Lets not defend unjust practices just becuz some hindu decided to point them out.
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I am sorry, just wondering - how do you believe it's an "unjust" practice if the husband genuinely treats each of them as laid down in the Quran?
Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest ~ Quran XIII.28
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Originally posted by Nadia_H:
** I am sorry, just wondering - how do you believe it's an "unjust" practice if the husband genuinely treats each of them as laid down in the Quran?
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Maybe Nadia_H is the kind of Guppie I am looking for!!!!
SO, Nadia, you don't think it is unjust?
And what do you mean 'laid down' in Koran?
Does Koran go into details or simply say 'Treat THem Equally' ?
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Originally posted by Andhra1:
SO, Nadia, you don't think it is unjust?
And what do you mean 'laid down' in Koran?
Does Koran go into details or simply say 'Treat THem Equally' ?
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No, Andhra1, I don't believe it is unjust AT ALL, IF (and this is the qualifier that is stipulated in the Quran) all wives are treated equally.
You are absolutely right, there are not many details in the Quran regarding how to treat 2nd/3rd/4th wives. The stipulation of treating them equally or justly should suffice; either you treat people in a perfectly equitable manner or you don't. You might fool others but you can never lie to yourself. And certainly not to God. The Quran is clear about this much: treat your wives justly, or do not take a second wife. Period.
This particular Quranic verse (IV.3) was Revealed subsequent to the battle of Uhud, when there was a disproportionate number of Muslim females to males. How were they (and their dependents) to be looked after properly? Even to this day one finds immense social stigma attached to widows; Islam provided a perfectly practical and morally-sound manner of providing for widows and their children.
And if we take the example of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), who is considered as the best example of how a human is supposed to live, he was monogamous with his first wife, Khadija, for the entire duration of their marriage - 25 years. The majority of wives he was married to after that were widows with dependents. No one can tell me that there is much "equality" in countries where women with 1 or 2 kids are dumped by 'deadbeat dads' after a couple of months & left to fend for themselves and their children.
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Originally posted by PyariCgudia:
** Today, there is NO reason other than lust for a man to have 2 wives.
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What do u do in the case of a "love triangle" ? Just wondering.
Very well said