Re: How Long Would it Take…
I wasnt talking about the person who adopts a kid.. I meant people of our societyw ho judge you.. whoever thinks it’s pathetic of me to think of adopted kids as not their “own” needs to re read my initial post.. I was talking about my sister’s kids and I am not very strict in discilplining them because I dont want “people” to think evil of me! sadly but truly our culture has “people who talk nonetheless.”
you did say in your first post that there are people at “both extremes” and the people who go through “IVF and whatever”
What I am trying to say here is adopting a child isn’t a choice being made by one person, be it the man or woman who has had enough of medical treatment, it’s in fact teh choice made by the couple nad in some cases by the families.. probably a woman wants to adopt but she is afraid how the family will treat the adopted child hence she is reluctant or feels that her husband’spriority would be to have their own biological baby hence trying everything possible under her control? In other words, who are we to determine a timeline for people to try to conceive, to get medical treatment or adopt as a last resort!
Both of us have our own biological child so both of us are in no position to be in their shoes neither should we be reflecting on the choices they make or not make!
Adopting a child is a huge responsibility..MashaAllah to those who can take up this responsibility. May Allah Taala reward them for their good deeds but by no means it should be discussed as a resolution for someone’s effort to conceive their own biological child!
ps: I really dont like going back and forth about the same topic but I thought I will clarify a few things regarding my post.. you could have very easily opened a thread as suggested by queer about “why people dont adopt” but trying to put yourself in a situation that you or I just cant even imagine, lets not do that! Peace out 