Re: How Long Would it Take…
I know how you feel and I’m very glad you feel this way, it’s very (very, very) rare to come across South Asian individuals who have a not so dismissive and hopeless take on adoption.
There is a drama that’s currently running on Geo where the guy is considering second marriage because he wants to be the ‘father’ and infertile wife is on the verge of hitting insanity because she can’t be a ‘mother’, and surprise surprise their marriage is falling apart pretty badly because of that . Now you don’t need any special life experience or degree in your back pocket to understand that its utterly sad, unfair and their suffering is very much self inflicted in this day and age because in the form of adoption, the couple has an opportunity to have children and experience parenthood. Unfortunately I can’t say it’s just a drama and dismiss the issue, because that’s very much the reality in South Asia. Having a child confirms your malehood, bearing a baby serves the prime (for some, the only) purpose of being a woman and any hiccup in the system means your life is nothing but a big lonely bubble of doom and gloom. My mother knows a case of woman, who’d been in a profound state of depression for decades because she couldn’t conceive, she just wanted to be a mummy and experience every bit of joy and delight that a child brings in life. Fortunately, she did adopt a child and is now a wonderful mother to a very happy kid and a very inspiring woman.
I’m not advocating baby shopping for every single family out there, adoption should not be a casual decision in way or form. However, the point of trying to make is that adoption is a perfectly legitimate option and should be encouraged, especially to those who are having trouble conceiving. Trust me, its better than hitting depression.