How Long Would it Take....

[Muzna]

Re: How Long Would it Take…

@bebo

I don’'t know about the charitable act. I don’t precieve adoption as a charity. It has more to do with your own values than anything else.
I give you my example. We have no kids by choice till now and we have decided that when the time comes in our lives that we think about expanding our family, adoption will be our first priority.
I happened to mention it to my dad once and his immediate reaction was why would you do that? He said adoption means you are incapable of having your own child. I was disappointed at his thought process but I did not argue with him since I don’t agree with my family in many aspects of life in general.
Point is that I think of adoption as another way of having children and it has the same value for me as having a biological child.

thanks for sharing your story…means a lot that you would open up here in a public way.
and you’ve touched upon another reason…the misconception or assumption by our society that adopting means you are incapable of having your own biological child…perhaps another idea that is perpetuated by the fact that usually those who face infertility end up adopting. (another reason why I am so keen to adopt after having had my own child…just to counter this notion)