I would like to ask for some advice here…I’m confused on an issue… Ideally I would want to date a guy for about 2 to 4 years before getting engaged or married (this is assuming I like the guy and everything progresses accordingly). This is because I know it takes time to see what a guy is actually like in different situations and get to know him on a deep level and also because it takes time for feelings to develop. But I’m wondering if long term relationships will give too many opportunities for temptation, especially as the feelings start to grow? What is a good amount of time to date someone that will allow me to get to know him and develop feelings (if they are going to happen) without being so long that I have a hard time resisting temptation? After months of dating I’m sure it will start to feel like a marriage and then sex would feel like the natural thing to do and especially as feelings develop i will want it even more than initially. It would also feel weird in some ways to date someone for years and not progress to getting intimate. That’s what I do with friends!
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What happened to that guy who was getting divorced, that you were in love with?
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Or was that pakieyez? I'm very confused now.
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0 years
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kya ho gya hai logoan ko … IMO, if one spends 4 yrs with someone, finding no harm in dating and getting intimate and then sex,etc, I dont think he/she will mind not getting married after 4 years either ! pakka phansnay se faida ??
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one day before the end of 4 yrs break up, you start over again, another 4 yrs - way too many years wasted - quite frankly sounds like a flow plan to me
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I would like to ask for some advice here...I'm confused on an issue... Ideally I would want to date a guy for about 2 to 4 years before getting engaged or married (this is assuming I like the guy and everything progresses accordingly). This is because I know it takes time to see what a guy is actually like in different situations and get to know him on a deep level and also because it takes time for feelings to develop. But I'm wondering if long term relationships will give too many opportunities for temptation, especially as the feelings start to grow? What is a good amount of time to date someone that will allow me to get to know him and develop feelings (if they are going to happen) without being so long that I have a hard time resisting temptation? After months of dating I'm sure it will start to feel like a marriage and then sex would feel like the natural thing to do and especially as feelings develop i will want it even more than initially. It would also feel weird in some ways to date someone for years and not progress to getting intimate. That's what I do with friends!
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I have no idea why you need 2-4 YEARS to develop feelings for someone or know if you want to marry them. That's ridiculous!
Assuming you start dating someone with the intention of marriage......you should know by 1 year if you want to marry them. If the feelings haven't developed (for BOTH people) in 1 year.....its not going to develop in the 2nd, 3rd, or 4th year.
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i was reading a TIME article the other day For Richer or Poorer
By **RANA FOROOHAR
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although the motif of the article was different but she noted the following -
“…in franc e avg length of cohabitation is 9.5 yrs in us its 1.17 …”
“…in sweden 82% of cohabitating couples end up sealing the deal. in US fewer than half do (<41% end of getting married) …”
“…meanwhile % of children born out of wedlock has been rising: its now 41% overall and 53% for those born to women under 30…”
other things include emotional and financial volatility, economical instability etc etc
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2-4 years is gora people talk.
For me it's the chemistry thing. And if two people really do have chemistry, it wouldn't take them 2-4 years to find it.
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you date till you get bored…then move on to the next one..
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hi nomica
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OP should move to Sweden. :p
PakiQueen, I would say just go with the flow, and if premarital sex is a no-no for you...then stay within your moral/religious limits and make your boundaries/expectations clear to him. You seem to have it in your head that you will DEFINITELY date for 2-4 years......and things may not turn out that way. Perhaps you and a guy might date for 6 months or a year...and feel that you're both compatible enough and ready for marriage. There's no guarantee. Also, how long the relationship lasts prior to marriage........does not solely depend upon your own feelings and personal schedule. What about the guy? He would have his own time-frame....his own views about when he would like to get married. And who knows you both might have to compromise on that...meet each other in the middle. But just go with the flow, get to know him well, pay attention to any red flags, etc. Cuz there isn't a standard time-frame.
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Life long with your spouse.
or
You change your religion and date as and when you feel like it
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sup queeny..aight..i would say if ya find compatablity with someone ya like..just don't delay. Get along yo. Ya don't have to date fro 2 or 4 years to know someone.
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15 minutes + effort of few months behind scene.
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You can never gauge out how long it will take for him to show his true colors if he has any saved up. Honestly you can never know anyone completely until you start living with them. Seeing someone in chunks of time than waking up next to someone are two different things and for that u have to be hitched in my books!!
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a chastity belt would come in handy whenever you meet him..
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2-4 years? That’s just plain silly! Either you’re very loose or you’ve got a guy who can’t get it up. 
I don’t know anyone who could date someone for over 2 years and not get physically intimate 
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You only need few meetings to have an idea whether to consider a person for a marriage or not. If you start considering a person for marriage, you don't need to see the person in every POSSIBLE life situation to guage their suitability because there can be innumerable situations and you will need a whole life to judge a person on the basis of EACH AND EVERY possible situation. You just need to see how a person interacts with you, how he/ she interacts/ behaves with others (including his/ her family/ friends, your family/ friends and others) and what basically are his/ her ideas about life and things in general. I think this info is enough to decide whether to consider a person for marriage or not. You can then proceed with engagement which gives you more chances to know a person and then proceed towards marriage.
2-4 years dating is not needed to know a person unless he/she is a psycho who suffers from multiple personality disorder. Then only you need this much time to understand a person and even then you won't be able to make a decision to marry him/ her.
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so u date someone for 4 years and get to know eachother.Things dont work out.You find another person , date them for another 4 years andd um things dont work out again. thats not realistic unless i start dating at age 12 or so.
i dont get the concept of dating.