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*Originally posted by sadzzz: *
at least men exist where u live...
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im not too sure about that sadzzz... ive been here 6 years and have yet to find HIM. ive given up on looking where i live tho...
i believe internet is the way to go, unless you have good sources otherwise.
i agree Reemzy... i think u could find HIM online.. Inshallah..
ur in US right? if u come to OZ.. u'll cry definately seeing the lack of desis here...
chica - you are soooo funny!!!
u just crack me up!
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im not too sure about that sadzzz... ive been here 6 years and have yet to find HIM. ive given up on looking where i live tho... *
i believe internet is the way to go, unless you have good sources otherwise.**
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i still haven't convinced myself of that!
i still think that i have to meet HIM first and then get to know him, instead of getting to know him and then meeting him
cuz u know...what if there's no chemistry, but u already know sooooo much about each other and u think u like some1 but if there's no chemistry then u can't take it anywhere!
thats my biggest fear with using internet as a resource!
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*Originally posted by sadzzz: *
i agree Reemzy... i think u could find HIM online.. Inshallah..
ur in US right? if u come to OZ.. u'll cry definately seeing the lack of desis here...
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sadzzz, internet try karo naa.... there are more weirdos out there than marriage material lekin its worth a shot
and yea im in the US.
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*Originally posted by zidee: *
i still haven't convinced myself of that!
i still think that i have to meet HIM first and then get to know him, instead of getting to know him and then meeting him
cuz u know...what if there's no chemistry, but u already know sooooo much about each other and u think u like some1 but if there's no chemistry then u can't take it anywhere!
thats my biggest fear with using internet as a resource!
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ive really given up on the "meet him in person" part...
zidee if ur in the same country then there shouldnt be a problem in meeting the person, as long as both parties are interested. ya know? ofcourse its not always easy to just get up and fly somewhere to meet someone, lekin i believe iss case main one has to make an effort if they really want something/someone. :)
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*Originally posted by Reemzy: *
ive really given up on the "meet him in person" part...
zidee if ur in the same country then there shouldnt be a problem in meeting the person, as long as both parties are interested. ya know? ofcourse its not always easy to just get up and fly somewhere to meet someone, lekin i believe iss case main one has to make an effort if they really want something/someone. :)
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i can understand what you are saying...
but i'm having issues with HOW u r supposed to meet someone in person! granted, thats how i would like for it to happen, but i don't know HOW that's going to happen!
cuz if someone approaches me while i'm out with my friends, its just taken as..."oh, he's hitting on me" u know what i mean!
and i definitely don't mingle with the desi crowd here, cuz i don't know anyone!
so...eventho, i'd love to meet some1 in person...i just don't see how that's ever going to happen...and thats why i know i'm going to die single :(
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*Originally posted by zidee: *
thats why i know i'm going to die single :(
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lol u crazy chickie... Allah naa karay.
reemzy why do you sound like an old guppie.
until he comes. never settle for less.
^ no wonder u chose the nick u chose 
well you are all doing the right thing by registering here on GS..definitely a step towards the RIGHT direction..heh heh..
btw ..zidee, sadzzz, reemzy .. u r hilarious..hilarious! I just loved reading this thread ..
Wait for the Mr Right till you are in your 90's or death...on the 2nd thought...Mr/Ms Right is a state of mind and nothing else...which is always variable... :)
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reemzy why do you sound like an old guppie.
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i dont know... why do i?
cat-woman... i dont know about that long wait... i really dont wanna be be single forever :)
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*Originally posted by Reemzy:
someone who is educated, with a good family background, decent looking (so ur not embarrassed walking around with him).. (a cute guy is a bonus ) and someone ur compatible with is mr right in my opinion... ofcourse u cant always find out if ur compatible or not, unless u communicate with the guy before the big day(in the case of an arranged marriage ofcourse). u know wat i mean? and once ur married, there is no option of getting out of it... atleast im not giving myself that option, dont know about others.
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And how do you test your compatibility with someone if you never spent day and night with her or him????
Rest of teh things are fairly normal , i mean we all look for that in a partner don't we. Why is it so hard to find then?????????????????
Im just going to keep on living. No need to "wait" for anyone. If it happens it happens, if it doesnt, I dont mind strolling by myself in Jannah. smile
Munni .... :) .... that is exactly how I have been thinking/living for the past few months. It's quite exhilirating when you just stop thinking about it and continue to 'live' rather than putting life on hold while we sit around and 'wait'.
hmmmmm 
hehe why u laffing so hard for huh? tsk tsk hehe im glad we amused u
“and someone ur compatible with is mr right in my opinion… ofcourse u cant always find out if ur compatible or not, unless u communicate with the guy before the big day”
if u read carefully, i said kay u can never kno if ur compatible with a person if its an arranged marriage… UNLESS you get to spend time with the person. u dont have to spend day and night to know if u get along with another person.
and God knows why its so difficult to find someone. 
Nutz - i hope you know, this entire thread was for your benefit. i’m glad you got a laugh out of it!
eventho some of us are struggling here!
u know its weird. when i was younger, all i wanted was freedom…from my parents, brothers, community…etc, etc. i just wanted to go away! and now that i’ve been doing things on my own for GOd knows how long…i’m tired of it!
i have friends who are sooooooooooo jealous of my life…yet, i wish i had what they have!
i guess the grass is always greener on the other side 
Munni & Mehnaz - i have really tried that…but it doesn’t work! cuz everyday i get either an email, phone call or something…where some1 or their mother wants to know when i’m getting married.
so no matter how much i try to forget about this idea, no1 around me will let me 
until u get married!