how old is too old to be single and still hoping that Mr Right WILL come along one fine day? I know kay jub qismat main likha hota hay jub hee hota hay sub kuch… lekin thats not the point here.
do we make it difficult on ourselves by raising our standards and expectations as we get older?(when it comes to finding the perfect… or somewhat perfect partner?)
should girls compromise with whatever or whoever they are getting, after they reach a certain age? or should the search still go on… patiently?
i think expectations and standards are separate from Mr/Ms Right..
well... hmm ok they might be the same thing come to think of it.. lekin i reckon when u find THE person... than there are no expectations and standards.... with MR and MS right... things just happen.... hmm sigh
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*Originally posted by Reemzy: *
how old is too old to be single and still hoping that Mr Right WILL come along one fine day? I know kay jub qismat main likha hota hay jub hee hota hay sub kuch... lekin thats not the point here.
do we make it difficult on ourselves by raising our standards and expectations as we get older?(when it comes to finding the perfect... or somewhat perfect partner?)
should girls compromise with whatever or whoever they are getting, after they reach a certain age? or should the search still go on... patiently?
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aweeeee ..... u shouldn't wait......
get married whenever u get a chance..... :D
There is a difference between mr perfect and mr right. if you seek mr perfect then wait as long as it needs to be. If you seek mr right your standards will change with time due to whats available to you as you age.
That is an immatue idealistic approach to find a life partener. I'd choose to be conservative about it and trust God on this decision rather then my own judgement... and my judgement of people is pretty good even if say so myself.
Wise people say that you learn new things about your partener every day. A lifetime wouldn't be enough if you started looking for mr. right , you know.
besides , if someone is gonna accept you with all your good and bad points, you should be giving her/him the benefit of teh doubt now and then.
Reemzy - i'm struggling with the same question lately! don't know what to do...keep waiting or settle???
Super-ego & hmcq - you both bring up gr8 points, but for some reason it just seems like i'd be settling...its a very unsettling feeling :)
and i know these r our life decisions and they should be made with a lot of thot, and everything about that person shud be taken into account...but...its all easier said than done, esp if u have an ideal in your head about mr. right!
by mr right i did not mean kay he has to be a gorgeous hunk with a trillion dollar bank balance and a mansion to live in and a dozen fancy cars to drive around in.
someone who is educated, with a good family background, decent looking (so ur not embarrassed walking around with him).. (a cute guy is a bonus ) and someone ur compatible with is mr right in my opinion… ofcourse u cant always find out if ur compatible or not, unless u communicate with the guy before the big day(in the case of an arranged marriage ofcourse). u know wat i mean? and once ur married, there is no option of getting out of it… atleast im not giving myself that option, dont know about others.
and no matter how long uve dated or ‘been with’ someone, there are always new things you learn about each other when ur actually mariried and living together. but when ur married u just learn to love and accept ur partner the way he is.
i dont know zidee
i just feel that as soon as i decide to settle down with someone my parents pick im gonna run into someone else.. Mr Right.
i just cant let go of that idea and settle… dilemma!!
in your situation Reemzy wait as much as you want to. But i think you are already questioninhis existance by asking how long should we wait. In the meanwhile enjoy life as it comes to you.
i know what u mean…cuz i feel that way too sometimes.
but i decided…i’m going to wait for him until i hit 30!
then i’m willing to settle, cuz that still gives me a couple of years.
yea… lol funny thing… coz thats wat i have planned too… except in my case im like.. if i or my parents dont find me someone by 30 then im just going with whoever i want, weather they approve or not…
we shall see…
thats sooooo true…i have similar thots sometimes…
and i think if i’m not married by the time i’m 30…my parents will have to let me do whatever i want! not that there’s someone in my life
k:
) and someone ur compatible with is mr right in my opinion… ofcourse u cant always find out if ur compatible or not, unless u communicate with the guy before the big day(in the case of an arranged marriage ofcourse). u know wat i mean? and once ur married, there is no option of getting out of it… atleast im not giving myself that option, dont know about others.
