really
what is enough?
i suppose it depends on the length of the relationship, the intensity, and how the relationship ended.
and then it depends upon the person as far as how able they are to move on
but what is too much?
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Hmmm .. good question ..
Really cant quantify that ...
tricky question I guess
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depends on the individual ...some people need more time to get over it and others move on quickly.
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and then it depends upon the person as far as how able they are to move on
i totally agree with that!!!!
too much wuld be still bugging that person even after they have made it clear they want nothing to do with u. i hear some co-workers tell tales of their ex-obsessive partners who sound like some real freaky psycho-paths!
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really
what is enough? i suppose it depends on the length of the relationship, the intensity, and how the relationship ended. and then it depends upon the person as far as how able they are to move on
but what is too much?
Jeez, I was thinking about the same thing today, and even wrote a blog on a related topic, well a topic that stemmed from someone's relationship coming to an end. The funny part is that the 2 people involved have somewhat moved on but their families are still carving and fabricating stories about why it happened.
Anyhow, I think everybody has their own threshold of tolerating pain and agony, their own motivation to overcome, and the circumstances to get distracted and finally move on. So I guess the answer would be, each person takes their own time.
What is too much? When it's starts rubbing people around them the wrong way, such as being in the victim mode all the time, demanding sympathy, and blaming other people for the end of their relationship: why me and me alone and no one else type of mentality.
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there has to be some limit though right, I mean if i was dating someone and after a few dates it does not work out, oh well, a serious relationship with someone for lets say 6 months, or a year, it ends...how long do you fret over it, a amonth, 3, half year, 3 years? what if teh relationship was 2 years long? how long do you fret over it then. There has to be some point at which its counter productive.
I mean the way I look at it when ppl say oh I wasted 2 years of my life with her boo hoo. I say yeah, 2 years with her, and now 2 years moping about it.
but then i am the bad guy...:) tough love ki toh aaj kal koi jagah hi naheen hai dunya mein
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Jeez, I was thinking about the same thing today, and even wrote a blog on a related topic, well a topic that stemmed from someone's relationship coming to an end. The funny part is that the 2 people involved have somewhat moved on but their families are still carving and fabricating stories about why it happened.
Anyhow, I think everybody has their own threshold of tolerating pain and agony, their own motivation to overcome, and the circumstances to get distracted and finally move on. So I guess the answer would be, each person takes their own time.
What is too much? When it's starts rubbing people around them the wrong way, such as being in the victim mode all the time, demanding sympathy, and blaming other people for the end of their relationship: why me and me alone and no one else type of mentality.
I have been in some intense relationships that did nto work out, and yeah it was tough for some time, and shadows of it still impacted me in who I became and how I grew and evolved but moving on is key, and moving on means that you just stop piunishing yourself by the what if, why this, wh that, hy not this, why not that type of scenarios.
its over, move on, deal with the pain, deal with the anguish, learn something from it, continue to live your life. I mean the person who walked away, that person is not running at light speed in a vicious circle..they hyave moved on.
why hurt yourself more than the other person hurt you? isnt that the key question here
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I can't talk about romantic relationships but can address a fraternal situation involving my best friend. I had a very good friend that I knew since grammar school. Since that time, we had been great friends but slowly we started drifting apart - I moved for University, he started doing drugs and seeing this girl.
Just last month, I came to the realization that our relationship as friends (forget best friends) was over when his already limited phone calls became non-existent to the the point where he didn't even bother to ring me on my birthday.
I guess the tough part is letting go and learning from your mistakes. I don't want to lay the blame on him entirely because as my life was moving on he was stagnating and I did not bother to include him in my milestones.
I think the friendship is dead. I don't see myself calling him or spending time with him ever again. If he calls I will answer the call but treat him like an acquaintance.
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how about fretting over a relationship that never came to be?
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long
Re: how long should one fret over an ended relationship?
yeah depends upon intensity
how much u felt for that person
doesnt matter romantic or just any other relationship
if ur feelings r dead then it doesnt hurt at all
but if u feel for that person then its a bit difficult to get over it
its hard to forget sumtimes
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how about fretting over a relationship that never came to be?
:( :(
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I guess we all fret sometimes but it does help if we try to find positive in every situation and move on, otherwise it will hamper our success in other things in life.
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how about fretting over a relationship that never came to be?
impact can be there, whatever type of relationship it was that ended before it really even started, spousal, parental,..but the key is moving on, not forgetting, but not allowing it to keep you from moving on..
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when one gets bored. And want to put is mind some place else, instead.
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Some people never ever truly get over it. I know someone who had a failed relationship which lasted about 7 or 8 years and after that she vowed never to marry. She's like in her 40s and this rel'p ended when she was in her mid 20's. She's never had the will to enter a relationship again :(
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woooo! is that really true Riya?
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i've heard that guys normally don't marry n' stuff, after such a relationship but girl?? its hard...
i mean family do convince them some way or the other.
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It depends on the relationship..it could last 6 months and be full of intensity and emotions and true love and another could last for 3 years and mean nothing. Time doesn't really matter. The amount of feelings you had for the other person and vice versa is truly what counts.
Personally I believe with time anyone can get over anyone else. You will never forget them but it is possible to move on.
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= (Duration of relationship) X (Duration of only friendship)
(Intensity of relationship) X (Total Duration of Breakup)
Intensity of relationship = 1 to 10 (Be honest) i.e. 10 = U can actually die for him/her
Calculate everything else in one unit i.e. days, months
Result will be the time you need to recover.
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