how long should one fret over an ended relationship?

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Re: how long should one fret over an ended relationship?

it is about a deep disappointment, its built up and a very clever as well as a coward way of running away. such a person can best be wished well and there is no need to look at that expereince as a kind of constantly oozing sore.
because it is not, it's hurt is enough that it bleeds and then becomes a mere memory mark as an attestation of the felt disappointment.
best,
Dushwari

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Re: how long should one fret over an ended relationship?

Varies. The ability to move on or not does count. Apart from that, as a friend of mine puts it, one may forget the past love if there are better alternatives.. like if the next oerson coming in your life is good enough to compensate.. Even if one is not able to come out of the past relationship, either it be that their love is really and truly too strong, or they are simply a victim of false ego. Fretting over an ended relationship itself, to me, somehow, is kinda being egoistic, otherwise they would have accepted the situation and had moved on. Yet, varies. You never know with love. It may play differently with each one of its victims.

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Maybe it’s my rusty maths, but are you sure you want to use Intensity as denominator and not as numerator?

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Yea I am sure ... as Intensity will remain the same and duration period will extend. This will make the whole number smaller.

Btw do check in u'r personal case , if there is, and leme know if it works :)

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Re: how long should one fret over an ended relationship?

:hinna::hinna:

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This is a pretty delicate topic since it has so much to do with emotions. Prayer can help you through it as well as keeping your mind occupied with other things.

Congratulations LIPPY
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Re: how long should one fret over an ended relationship?

Depends on the person, some take ages some don't. Some ppl. can't sleep because of an ended relationship. Others try and move on. It really depends on the individual.

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We are all different. Some people neva move on.

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True some ppl. never move on in life and that's the worst thing.

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interesting question. i believe in moving on as quickly as you can , but then it dependsa on the person

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Re: how long should one fret over an ended relationship?

You answered your own question.

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ting ting ting!!

but i mope over things too -- mostly an ex best friend -- the men I've long forgotten --

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Yeah its true and she's not desi.

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I know about a case where the girl fought with her family really hard and once they about to be convince the guy left her cuz his parents were not willing to accept her. He got engaged a few weeks later and married a year or two after the break up while the girl didnt get over it for many years and finally married 6 years after the break-up. She still sometimes think of the guy!

I think that it depends on the relationship. Maybe ppl cant forget their first love!

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What abt those who really wants to move on but dont seem to make it?

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as everyone has already stated, the length of time varies...the question should be, HOW do u move on?

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Phir koi yeh bhi bata de na, HOW to move on? Its lot easier to say to someone "you should move on" and etc. lekin how do you move on, and leave all those memories behind? How do u tell urself that its all rite to move on? Anyone who has an answer to this?:)

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Re: how long should one fret over an ended relationship?

Perhaps by stop thinking about why the person left, what happened, why me and stuff like that and start thinking positive that it was not meant for you and that Allah has thought of better things for you than moping over somebody who walked away.

Try to focus on your goals in life, work on your studies/career and do some volunteer work and be a source of help and inspiration to others.

Be active and not like a passive depressed 'left-over' who would be mourning over a loss for the rest of the life.

Good luck:)

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Re: how long should one fret over an ended relationship?

The time taken to move on also depends greatly on the people around the heartbroken person. With the right kind of support, motivation, counseling (by friends, family etc), reasoning, talk, discussion, activity, change and socializing the time can be minimal, just a few months even for a 5+ year old ended relationship.
There are battles in life which one cannot fight alone, and there are battles in life which one can fight alone but cannot survive the aftermath of which alone without the right kind of support and love from those who care. It has to be God's blessings when people have people to hold them when the fall, and as quality people it has to be everyone's responsibility to be ready to hold those who we all care for if/when they trip.
But some scars are still scars whether they hurt or not, and some incisions totally heal up on the outside but are always painful when even slightly touched.

Timepass
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Re: how long should one fret over an ended relationship?

2.4 days from my calculation.