Re: How long did it take?
i think it 1.5-2 years. but u never lose hope.
sabr ka phal meetha hota hai
Married ? when did it happen kid ?
yea sabr ka kaduu (phal ) kis k hisay mein ayah :D
Re: How long did it take?
i agree to your first argument
i agree to your second argurment - these days parents dont want to go through the hassle of finding good husbands and wives for their daughters and sons. so they say find it yourself and then let me know. same way parents dont want to go through the effort of teaching ways of life to their childern. and then they freak out o my daughter doesnt want to do hijab, or my son doesnt stop smoking, etc etc.
well its wrong to put everything on the parents. we should also show initiative to learn how to become a better person, a better human, a better muslim, a better daughter/son, a better husband/wife. but I guess it is becoming our habit to look for a scapegoat.
nowadays, we have mosques and a lot of Muslims gatherings happening in major cities of developed countries, but still people are not social. its really hard for parents to look for someone who will be good to their son/daughter. if couple met at school/university/through someone its not like they are living together, or PDAs, etc. ppl still have islamic morals and fear of ALLAH SWT.
another thing is if your son/daughter is really educated its really hard to find a compatible partner for them. Importing one comes with its own price. so its not easy for parents to look for one.
Re: How long did it take?
Married ? when did it happen kid ?
yea sabr ka kaduu (phal ) kis k hisay mein ayah :D
lol..well what i meant its been1.5-2 years when they actually started looking.
so fiker not i am still not officially ready for life1.
Re: How long did it take?
congratz. you didnt tell us.
well, now you know.
Re: How long did it take?
you totally missed the point
anyway forget it
ahh yeh its not an interview my friend..Rather than being butthurt over not getting a call back, i say move on.
Re: How long did it take?
no, i meant exactly what i wrote
Re: How long did it take?
but you seen the first time a little boy steps foot in a mosque it when he is holding is fathers hand
this instinct even exists in animals as well mother leopard takes years to teach her daughter the skill or hunting, geese teach their young to fly, penguins, elephants, you name them. its the first few steps i am talking about is when it is the sole parents. but we humans do go against this very thing that is built in all of us.
you cannot tell a four year old little boy go find your own way to the mosque same way you cannot tell your kid as soon as he/she turns 18, go live your own life, and the same way you cannot tell your young son or daughter go find yourself someone you must spend more than half your life with.
we are too young, they have gone through life and marriage, they should hold our hands and help us enter this new phase of our life called marriage, son or daughter regardless
well its wrong to put everything on the parents. we should also show initiative to learn how to become a better person, a better human, a better muslim, a better daughter/son, a better husband/wife. but I guess it is becoming our habit to look for a scapegoat.
nowadays, we have mosques and a lot of Muslims gatherings happening in major cities of developed countries, but still people are not social. its really hard for parents to look for someone who will be good to their son/daughter. if couple met at school/university/through someone its not like they are living together, or PDAs, etc. ppl still have islamic morals and fear of ALLAH SWT.
another thing is if your son/daughter is really educated its really hard to find a compatible partner for them. Importing one comes with its own price. so its not easy for parents to look for one.
Re: How long did it take?
Sorrow, it will happen when it's meant to be. Everyone's destiny is different. I know that it's easier said than done, but try to put yourself out there, socialize more, let friends and family know that you're looking for a rishta, try matchmakers, reflect over your criteria (maybe it's limiting you and you need to make adjustments or compromises....and I know that can be hard to do as well), maybe reflect over things that could be hindering you such as your behavior/body language/comments when you interact with rishtas. Don't leave everything to your parents.....go out with your friends...there's a possibility that you might meet someone on your own. And of course, there's prayer/dua.