How long after giving birth did you try again for another baby???

Iyla · November 22, 2010, 10:12pm

Re: How long after giving birth did you try again for another baby???

A lot of you are using the “they will be close/have a better relationship” if they have a smaller age gap as a motivation, but honestly, I think agegap has some, but very little impact on what kinda relationship you end up having with your siblings. I know plenty of people who are born just few years and months apart from each other and who have seriously crappy relationship because of jealousy, insecurities and competition during early childhood. Whether your kids end up having a fantastic relationship has little to do with the agegap and lots more to do with their personality etc etc.

Personally, my parents have had big agegaps (+5) and smaller agegaps (+1,5) as well. In our situation I am not so close with my sibling who is +5 because of personality issues, whereas my younger sister is very close to her sibling (+5 apart). On the other hand I am close to the those who are 1,5 and 6 yrs apart. In short, it really bottles down to the childs personality. So have your kids when you are ready, motivated and full energy. No kid wants a mother drained out of every ounche of energy seriously.

If I had to pick I guess I would like a 3 yrs age difference. Elder sibling will still be “the big one” and also able to have that “close relationship”

Totally agree!