Re: How important or dear is the marriage function to you?
a couple of years ago, my husband went to some mehndi with his family and couldn’t understand the logic behind gaana bajana, bride entering under a dupatta and the rasams that went on there. on the way back, he told his parents none of that was gonna happen at his mehndi/wedding and my mil being very traditional and all was like, ofcourse it will!!! but he was stubborn that he didn’t want any of that ‘nonsense’ and his dad completely sided with him. now fast forward to our nikkah last year.. i told him we were gonna have a mehndi, 4 dholkis.. all i heard back from him was :hinna: to my surprise, he didn’t say a word about it or did any kind of protesting. he came, he was a great groom who let us do whatever we felt like, my friends even made him get up and dance (biggest shock of the year) and basically, everything was done how i wanted it. of course i know he did that out of niceness and to make me happy. now for the rukhsati, we are planning a bigger event with more halla gulla iA.. not just in my family but also on his side with a couple of mehndis, lots of dholkis, and all that.. his side is memon/punjabi (totally into singing and dancing) and alot of his relatives will be showing up from around the world so he knows how crazy it’s gonna get since they all know how to party.. and he’s just about starting to prepare himself mentally for it all 
bechara.