Re: How important or dear is the marriage function to you?
^ dunno if ur being sarcastic or not, but i find it amusing that so many ppl think its just one or the other and cant think they can do both. ah well.
^ dunno if ur being sarcastic or not, but i find it amusing that so many ppl think its just one or the other and cant think they can do both. ah well.
Well not necessarily ... not everyone has that many resources ... we should always have consideration of others around us who may vary in financial status and not only our resources and our money and our wishes.
Rather then throwing crazy money on decorations and unwanted people or door paar kai relatives who one hasnt ever met in their life ! its better to use that money in a more rewarding manner... and it encourages others around us as well to use the money carefully and in good deeds.
chalo kher Sara sis, have an ice-cream, it’s a good weather today 
who says u cant have an OTT wedding and also give money to the needy?
i say to each their own. its ur money, if u want a lavish affair, go for it.
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xactly....
most ppl make a budget for their weding..can this not be included as a percentage?
Re: giving some money to help someone needy with wedding costs
I don't know if it would work well at a desi wedding, but many American couples ask for a gift to charity instead of wedding presents. So maybe instead of budgeting it as part of your wedding, you could sacrifice the wedding cash/gifts and put out a sign at your wedding or cards on the tables that announce that the bride and groom are donating all gifts to help another couple in need...
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Actually its not about giving some money to charity at the wedding! .. Its just about the careful use of money and the wrong practices it can set ...
All human beings get influenced by others... what may be an affordable extravaganza for one might become a trend and ultimately lead to pressure situations for the less fortunate.
All good things in life come with alot of responsibility, some consider themselves the chosen ones and take it all for granted... and ofcourse its always easy to spend the money that someone else has earned !
Some like to think , Allah has granted them the resources to help others and hence they ensure that they do not over spend on useless things and rather utilize that money in other good deeds.
At the end of the day , its down to every individual , Allah tests us all in different ways..
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I want a classy wedding. I do feel bad sometimes wondering if my fiance and I are spending too much on the wedding, but then I see the hall and the decor that I want and get all excited again!!! hehe
Seriously, to each their own. I think no one should judge how much money people spend on their wedding. No one should dictate to others how much money they *should *spend on their wedding! I know people who are very rich, yet chose to have a very simple wedding and then I know people who took loans out to pay for an extravagant wedding. What matters most is you're happy at the end.
And why do people think of the poor when it comes to weddings? Why not think of the poor at every step of your life and help them whenever you can?
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^that's exactly what I say. Anyway that brings us back to the argument that even if u spend something that u consider is little, many others will consider it lavish. And with that argument what u should do is wear a lawn shalwar kameez and just get a nikkah done in the masjid and live the rest of ur life where u don't buy anything expensive including designer handbags, shoes, designer lawn fabric.
Why do people think of charity when talking about weddings but then have no issue spending thousands of rupees on designer fabric? Or better yet let's not buy a nice big house to live comfortably in, let's give that to charity as well. Live a balanced life. Give charity and buy things that make u happy.
Very important and hell yes I want hala gala and ronak. its not a funeral.
LMAO. you think hubby will approve?
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a couple of years ago, my husband went to some mehndi with his family and couldn’t understand the logic behind gaana bajana, bride entering under a dupatta and the rasams that went on there. on the way back, he told his parents none of that was gonna happen at his mehndi/wedding and my mil being very traditional and all was like, ofcourse it will!!! but he was stubborn that he didn’t want any of that ‘nonsense’ and his dad completely sided with him. now fast forward to our nikkah last year.. i told him we were gonna have a mehndi, 4 dholkis.. all i heard back from him was :hinna: to my surprise, he didn’t say a word about it or did any kind of protesting. he came, he was a great groom who let us do whatever we felt like, my friends even made him get up and dance (biggest shock of the year) and basically, everything was done how i wanted it. of course i know he did that out of niceness and to make me happy. now for the rukhsati, we are planning a bigger event with more halla gulla iA.. not just in my family but also on his side with a couple of mehndis, lots of dholkis, and all that.. his side is memon/punjabi (totally into singing and dancing) and alot of his relatives will be showing up from around the world so he knows how crazy it’s gonna get since they all know how to party.. and he’s just about starting to prepare himself mentally for it all 
bechara.
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^aww that's cute. it's really nice that didn't make a fuss and got into the spirit of it all.
it annoys me when guys want to be grumpy about it and shy away from the attention. it's like, hello! it's your wedding, you and wifey need to be the centre of it all! at least do it for her sake..
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i think most guys, altho they say no no no, end up being in the moment....
^aww that's cute. it's really nice that didn't make a fuss and got into the spirit of it all. it annoys me when guys want to be grumpy about it and shy away from the attention. it's like, hello! it's your wedding, you and wifey need to be the centre of it all! at least do it for her sake..
yeah and they keep this weird face on as if they are doing everyone a favor.
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its so true … 
.. for that reason only I call them bride and the broom ! grooms are those that look happy at their wedding 
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Ever wonder why groom sounds so much like grim? :aq: