How important is your social circle to you....

[Spiral]

Re: How important is your social circle to you…

@redvelvet

^If you firmly believe that…then why worry about your SIL’s comments? I think you are a tad bit concerned because apart from sharing what she said, you’re also trying to figure out what she might have meant.

It can even be argued that being able to spend time/go places by yourself requires confidence. I know of a few people who feel very conscious about how others will view them if they’re seen alone in the most simple of settings. Tomorrow I have plans to watch a movie with a friend, but there have been times where I’ve gone by myself. My sister thinks that makes a person look like a loser, but I couldn’t care less cuz people don’t keep track of your company when you’re inside a theatre or when you enter/exit one. A week ago I went to a restaurant with a friend…but I don’t have any issues with going by myself either. With things like shopping, often times I prefer going alone because I get more accomplished that way. I like spending time with friends and family, but I enjoy spending time to myself as well…I find it necessary. I may choose not to socialize with certain people (desi and otherwise) because I don’t have much in common with them or we don’t click and that’s fine. Hmm, I think I’ve had some relatives and a few people from the desi social circle think I’m antisocial…but it’s easier for them to think that than for me to tell them that I keep a distance because they either turn me off or I don’t click with them. Socializing IS important…it does help with depression and it’s also said to help prevent other disorders (Alzheimer’s, etc). Helps develop your mind as well. I think that as long as you’re not behaving like a hermit where you isolate yourself from everyone and can’t manage a conversation with anyone outside the voices in your head and your immediate family…you’re fine.

In the past, my MIL has told me that she thinks its weird that I take no interest in watching TV or listening to music. I told them that there are other things I like to do and to hear it again from my SIL (umm MIL has pointed out my behavior is not normal), that my behavior is not normal makes me think if they really think I suffer some kind of disorder. I don’t but I am not sure why they are thinking that way. My husband always says that I am the most confident girl he has known yet he thinks that maybe his sister is right. I’ve worked full time in the past and had many friends in university/work but I got married/moved and lost touch with most of them and can’t be bothered contacting them. I have a good life and the most I would want to do is probably get a job (my SIL thinks that working women can’t focus on families, but that’s a totally different thing), so everything has to come down to socializing, partying etc.