How important is the financial status?

Lifestyle Relationships
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of the prospect you are considering marrying?

I was watching a Islamic lecture few days ago and the lecturer said 4 aspects r very imp to consider while looking for marriage;

  1. Deen.

  2. Attraction.

  3. Family.

  4. Financial Status.

Do you agree/disagree? Your thoughts on each of the above points? Do you have a different set of expectations for your spouse?

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I believe education, nature, family and then financial status in that order. I belong to a business family and know for a fact that you can not rely on financial status as a barometer and financials can change overnight.

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That's very well said and i can totally relate with it HOWEVER very much knowing what you are getting into can be good but yet nerve wrecking if its not favorable for you. But if you get into something good and later it changes you know atleast you are not to be blamed for it. Lol.

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ZK: I have mentioned it several time. I believe it is fundamental criteria and cover most aspect of comparability. Financial status is least considered factor but does not mean to keep it aside. Your third point is actually indicate cultural, social, educational values and thus you can derive future of your spouse's financial status.

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I think it's pretty important. You would want to know that the person you're marrying can provide for you and your children. This applies even if you are financially stable yourself, because there is always a chance that life might not pan out how you wanted it to, and for whatever reason if you are unable to work, you have the assurance that your spouse will be able to provide that much needed financial support.

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So poor guys are not allowed to get married?! Who is this lecturer??

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If there are poor guys, there are poor girls too. It’s about marrying into a family who will be able to support your lifestyle or atleast something similiar to it so that you don’t have cry and come on GS later to complain about how your hubby is such a kamena and what not :smack:. I didnt know it was THAT hard for some of you to understand :halo:.

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:k:

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If your hubby is a “kameen****i,” then you got bigger problems than his deflated wallet.

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mein mazak k mood mein nahi hon :snooty:…

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Lekin main mazaaq karne k mood main hoon. Theek hai…I’m sorry…mujhe maaf kar do. :flowers:

Chalo ab yeh bataao…would the wife be a kameena, by any chance?

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han kyun nahi, aaj kal kuch nahi pata kaun kya nikal aaey :smiley: :eek:

LOL

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So if its the guys duty to provide for you, dont you think it is also his right that he comes back home (after work) to a wife who happily manages all household affairs and greets him instead of complaining all the time that she wants to work? :stuck_out_tongue:

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Then he shouldn't have married a career woman. There are plenty of educated women who don't want to work after marriage but look after their house and be a good house wife.

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Let me put it this way. Would a career woman expect her husband to provide for her?

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Yes financial stability is important. Nothing is certain in life and therefore we give much importance to education. Although good education doesn't always guarantee good job but there are chances that an educated person will earn sufficient enough to support his family.

I don't look for financial stability in a guy by seeing how big his bank account might be, how much property does he have, how much inheritance would he be getting etc etc. For me, if he is educated and earning at least equal to me, its more than enough for me.

Unfortunately, we give least importance to Deen. Do we really try to find out if the person we are considering for marriage prays five times a day, fasts in Ramadan etc. We live in times when we talk about finding the virginity of the prospective spouse. Thats pathetic.

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exactly.........and then all these girls complain here that why guys don't want to marry them :D

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Ofcourse it is. Infact i strongly believe that the women's first and foremost responsibility is taking care of her family & home, just like the men's is to provide for their living. However if the couple chooses to interchange their job its upto them how they manage it but it's definately not something i would feel comfortable with or promote unless the circumstances were such that this switch was needed.

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Finances is the 4th major reason for a divorce . So yea its does matter .
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Yes it does matter...anyone who thinks it doesn't is clearly delusional.