to marry someone of a similar educational background? I know in our family a prospective groom’s worth is measured by the number of degrees he has. How important is this?
none.. In my view spouses should have different occupations and educational backgrounds.. how much one ignore different skill and success level in same careers would not be unnoticed.. besides it adds to more flavor in ideas and perceptions in life..
if they have a different field, atleast u'll cut short the fights that wud arise due to "i am btter than u"....
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none.. In my view spouses should have different occupations and educational backgrounds.. how much one ignore different skill and success level in same careers would not be unnoticed.. besides it adds to more flavor in ideas and perceptions in life..
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Yes Degas has a point to make...catty, what do u specilaze in?
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Yes Degas has a point to make...catty, what do u specilaze in?
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I specialize in flirt.. and I want the opposite .. ok?
On the other hand, having someone who understands what you doing always helps.
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I specialize in flirt.. and I want the opposite .. ok?
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tum jis school mein parhe ho, wahan ka mein head master rah chukka hoon :-|
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tum jis school mein parhe ho, wahan ka mein head master rah chukka hoon :-|
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head master ko to hum ne bada tang kia tha aur bhaga dia tha..
yara keep at the topic.. i know Catty for years and besides am married.
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head master ko to hum ne bada tang kia tha aur bhaga dia tha..
yara keep at the topic.. i know Catty for years and besides am married.
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Logic? I agreed to what u said..bura kia na? :-|
I wont flood here in this thread :p
Well, my husband and I have the same educational background and worked together for a few years. I think it is very helpful to our relationship that I can relate very well to what goes on with his career and what he's doing at work. I understand completely the stresses that he has, the triumphs and tribulations. So now that I'm a stay at home mommy, I'm still very happy that I had a career and can understand that part of my husband's life.
On the other hand, I know a couple - husband is a lawyer and wife is only high-school educated. She is very self-consious about her lack of education and tries constantly to prove her intelligence - she overdoes it all the time and can get a bit overbearing about it.
So based on past experience, i think its helpful when people can really understand each other. But it really comes down to the people involved too - if one is alot more educated is the other one ok with that or does it make them self-consious?
hmm...
my dad doesnt think education matters, my mom does
to me it doesnt
in fact i always think there r two types of ppl i'd be scared to get married to :
doctors
PHD's
id prefer to marry somebody to whom a career is just a side thing and main focus is family..not to say he has to be a flake and not work hard at his job, but just he shudnt be obsessed with his career or overly ambitious to the extent where family comes second...like i've seen guys travelling out of town for their jobs a lot and stuff, i reckon i'd prefer someone who earns less but stays home with the family...hard working but laid back attitude is best....and Allah is the one to provide anyway :)
Catty, its good but if I speak for myself then I would never want him to be from social sciences (forget abt IR, Pol. Sci. or any other fuzzy discipline).If I ever happen to get one, I would appreciate if he knows what he's heading for...otherwise I wouldnt' want him entertaining thoughts of working in Afghanistan or Edhi home like me.( one of us would have to provide for the family :o )
To answer your question, I'd say...well, it doesn't matter. If both the people are from the same profession, they can still bring in some different perspective to the same problem on the table, bed where ever you prefer :)
Education is definately very important to me. I would point blank refuse to marry any girl who does not hold a batchelor’s degree - in fact, I’d probably refuse to even marry a girl with a batchelor’s if it’s in one of the liberal arts.
I place great emphasis on educational similarity, for no apprent reason 
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I think it's pretty important. I think for a while, as long as the guy was more educated than the girl, people were okay. But these days, many guys I know want a girl who is educated as well so that they can communicate and relate to each other better.
This is especially considered for arranged marriages, I think.
However, for love marriages I think people are willing to look past it if it's not totally equal (altho they should still be close -- like one with a BS other with a MS). As long as the couple is happy and committed to having a good, healthy marriage.
I would rather be with somebody who I can converse with about various topics. Having a degree doesn't necessarily make you smart. I value world smarts as much as traditional education.
I've met quite a few "highly educated" idiots who are put on a pedastal by the community simply for the degree they hold. To me, they were idiots simply cause they knew nothing of the world outside of their field of study and Bollywood.
Mehnaz I agree with you.
Although education is very important to both parties- it doesnt have to be similar in any way.I mean there are all kinds of educational backgrounds.I think it would be silly to want somebody of the exact same background as yourself- rather boring too.
They should both be educated in the fields that they are interested in- and I dont think it matters if one has a PHd while the other only has his/her masters.And since they will be married- I dont think one would dare to say he/she is 'more educated' than the other.
I know some people with minimum education who have more sense than a person who is more educated.It all depends on the person.
in my opinion the guy should be a little more educated if not equally educated... a woman would hardly ever agree with her hubby if he is lesser qualified than her thinking that only she can be correct about things and has the ability to control everything about her. If both are equally educated then there is no problem, both would mutually agree. Well there are no rules in love and stuff so its up2 u....
I think it only matters if the guy has a complex and couldnt handle the fact his wife is more educated than him and/or makes more than him. I prefer someone who can converse on a wide variety of topics :), someone who is more "worldly"
In Pakistan a degree is considered everything…the more you have the better. I somehow disagree with that concept. I take a variety of continuing education courses every semester which don’t add squat to any particular degree but it adds to self-fulfillment..not to mention variety on my resume as well. A woman who can talk on technicalities of engineering to psychology and philosophy at the same time gets thumbs up from me.
A decent level of education is important. By education I mean exposure to college and/or university. What you choose for a major is not a concern as long as it provides challenge and variety of opportunities in practical life. So, if I had to choose between a girl with a PhD versus someone with a lot of exposure…I will go with the later. Let me tell you..a girl with a lot of exposure like yourself is quite a hot cake no matter how much of a kali billi you are. :p