How Important Is It to Marry . . .

[Ask99]

Re: How Important Is It to Marry . . .

@Jack_Handy

1. Preferably from your own culture.

2. Its better if they have similar shared religuous and cultural values.

3. Better to have a similar language.

Well marriage is about compromise, the more
things in similar - the less compromising one needs to do. Consequently a better level of understanding between the couple. It all depends on how committed the couplw are to the marriage and to one another. Marraige is not a rite of passage, - it is probably the most important decision of our lives- so we need to really think it over. Becuase in the end it is probably THE MOST relationship in your life, parents pass away, siblings drift away, children grow up and move out, it is the spouse that sustains and nurtures what is essential in your entire life.

My observations: ( pitfalls to avoid).
Men

1. I wanna a model Liz Huxley
2. I wanna a maid.
3. I wanna be in control
4. I wanna legal status
5. I wanna sex ( badly)

Women:

1. I wanna a tall hunk - Pierce Brosnan
   ( Every body was looking for a tall
   guy - There were only 3 guys 6ft
   and above at ISNA at mat)

2. I want money - ie an MD
   ( at ISNA almost 98% of the women
   preferred a physician/Lawyer/Engineer
   in that order respectively
   Since I was doing the mat paperwork
   volunteers have their privileges :)).

3. I wanna be in control.

4. I wanna impress my friends

My observations, Traditionally, Pakistani
men are nuts. I want this and I want that an I want yada yada yada - too many demands of desi men in Pakistan. In contrast ABCD girls,
raised in the relative comfort and security in the US have demands, I wanna this I wanna that yadi yadi yada.. - The sad part is that marriage will not address personal inadaquecies.

It is the maturity that counts…

Very Interesting observation:hmmm: