Re: How important is attraction to you
This had been true all my life till my BFF met and fell for a douche bag of epic proportions, who after arranged rishta meeting and carrying a relationship for two years cited the above reasons for not marrying her. A guy who’s parents had said Hamari koi requirement nahi hae, bus yay Jisko pasand karay hum uski shadi within a month kar daingay. He strung my friend along for two years, 1.5 of which he was deciding, then after actually ordering a ring and setting up an elaborate proposal plan, with a cruise and dinner etc., went back to the deciding phase because his ring didn’t arrive in time for all this to happen as planned and he saw that as a sign (go figure). Anyway another few months of stringing along, saying he doesn’t know how to brig it up with his parents (the ones who have met him up with umpteen number of girls so that he would finally marry someone, and who have already told him just tell us the girl and we’ll have the wedding). Ofcourse I kept telling my friend to just end it all along cuz I could see all the signs and she couldn’t.
Sad but cruel guys like this do exist…Allah bless your BFF with a very happy life, inshallah and she’s lucky to have a good friend like you watching out for her.